hii hetal
thankx for the advice.. but now it makes me more worried..my daughter weights around 8 kgs and she's nine months... i saw the links u gave me n how baby has breakfast lunch and dinner n believe me my daughter is not doing anythikng oof that sort.. she just wants milk and doesnt accept anything else... i started giving her solids when six months..but she responded well during the early times but later suffered from severe constipation prob becoz of whihc i had to reduce her solids and juices..now i m giving her just one juice per day.. 4-5 ounces of juice.. i had got soo many scoldings from my hubby sayig that i dont care abt the child i really dont knwo what to do .. i m helpless coz her constipation is sooooo much the that poop is just soooooooooooo big and hard to come out.. she cries like anything..what shall i doo..
plz help
ruchika replied. hi pari,
plz stop worring about theweight of ur daughter u my daughter is 2yrand9mnth she is just 11 kg but she is active and enjoy ....the thing u musttttt worry about is ur daughters constipation and plz give her as much as u can WATER its the only thing which can cure constipation give her DALIYA or all those things which get diget easily and plz force her to sit on pot everyday weather she wants or donot wants .

STOP WORRING ABOUT THE WEIGHT IF SHE IS ACTIVE.
ruchika Hetal replied. her wght is 8kgs, which is acceptble at 9months only if she was born with birth wght 2.8-3.4kgs...if not thn she needs your dr attn.

wat should i understand when you said \" my daughter is not doing nething of that sort\" ,,,

if your child has stoppd acceptng solids,,there are other reasns involved,,
they are:
1. teethng, check her gums,red, swollen, or pinksh,,,thn she is teethgn and she needs some soothng gel or teethers,,that will help her soothe her pain.

2. sudden loss of int in food, could be variety of food, child on one type of diet..it could be flavours, could be change in taste due to mild spices,child needs texture upgrades,,shapes and colours of food...all these fctrs often affect child interest in food !
3. rest all, ne illness to strike,,could be reason that child stops eating totally,,which most of the times,,includes even the drinking of formula,,and if child is suffrng from cold, internal fevers etc,,he will like to drink liquids more often thn eat something...

other thn that,make sure your child takes enough fibr.
see pari, its not always that drinking enough juices or takng enough diet like eating certain nos of meals helps,,fibr is most imp essential that body needs and it can be given in diff ways...so make sure she gets that.

i understand your situation is very much tensed, you are worried, and pressurizd by husband mostly because you are visitng new country and not havng medical help,,but gettng worried is not going to help right. try the fibr foods that i mentioned along with the links, also try the remedies i mentioned in there..and if you continue doing so, i expect your
daughter to recover by 3-4days..
and yes, i want you to contact your dr in India, and ask about ne medication that you can get from india...

remember onething,,pressures are going to be there,when you are dealing with child health probs esp from your partner,,mostly because mother is responsible for everything,,but being a mother,,you can not afford to lose your mind,,, just because you were pressurzd or you got scolds..
no one is perfect, nor am i..the only thing that makes us lose our confidence is these feather like situations,,so best thing to do is,,start implementng whatever comes in our way,,and see if helps somewhat...
virtually thats all i can help you with,,,i strongly recmnd you to start your baby on fibr foods that i talked about in prev reply to you,,,, follow the remedies, as i mentioned,,and also offer her massage esp the I love you stroke,,,,it will soothe your baby to
some extent...and yes after all this make sure to contact your dr
in India and if you can get some medicatns from him !

check the below link for steps on massage..i think point no 9 has the i love stroke :

http://www.indiaparenting.com/boards/showmessage.cgi?messageid=1936&table_name=dis_healthissues

take care, dont panic..your child looks upon you for everything and so does your partner,,,so no matter how bad the interactions between you and your partner happens when your child is crying,,stay calm, remain silent and have patience...i know its hard to do or easier said than done,,,,but i have been thru it and i know it well,,that its the wisest thing to do if you want this phase to pass on.

so believe in yourself that you are responsible for takng care of both of them and so avoid gettn tensd. just be cautious and make sure to try your best in handling your baby and your partners moods..

i strongly want to mention that please contact your dr or friends dr in place you are staying or in India,,and see if its of ne help...
i pray that your baby recovers from all pains and is healthy baby again.and let me know if there is anything,,i will refresh this page only for you.