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Name: Prajna

I am a 25 year old girl working in an MNC as an engineer. After seeing so many failed ' love' marriages I decided to toe the line of my religious parents. For the past two years they are unsuccessful in finding a suitable groom. Either I am not good for them or the groom has too many bad habits - smoking, heavy drinking, betting - for my liking.

Recently, my parents found a match wherein the horoscope matches on 31 counts which is a very close match. They dont want to let go of this opportunity. The groom' s side is very rich and do not mind an upper middle class family like ours. They have accepted me. Except that he occasionally takes a small drink in parties (which many males do nowadays, either openly or on the sly) I do not find much that is objectionable in the groom. But they have made a peculiar demand.

When their family came to our house for my interview, I and my younger sister (22) found it difficult to suppress our giggles. The groom' s mother and two sisters - both younger, one married and the other not - have got close boy cuts, wear saree with navel showing, sleeveless blouse with low cut back, large earrings and lipstick. Of course they have cute bindis and nose studs. They said they are also religious but they want to sport mod look to be counted among their rich peers.

I am a traditional girl with waist length thick braid, a nose stud and small earrings. I wear saree in a traditional way covering my stomach fully with blouse of correct length of sleeve. And all of them including the ladies get their heads shaved clean bald at Tirupati once in two years.

Now the groom and his family' s demand is that I should change my looks and ways to ' mod' to suit their taste. When I asked what it is he said \" You must wear your hair in a short boycut style like my mother, wear saree like she does. You must attend parties with me and socialise. Like my people you also should agree to go bald once in two years. And you should have a short boy cut before the wedding reception.\"

I love my hair long and I like my traditional ways. But all the same, I cannot go on rejecting one groom after the other and create difficulties for my parents. They are pressurising me to accept this groom. \" What problem is there in becoming a bit mod? You will get used to it. Many people keep their hair short and many tonsure. You can also go along. Please accept. The groom is a good boy\" my parents told me.

The groom had put another bombshell. \" I am not only a short hair lover but also a bald lover. I want my ' first night' with both myself and my bride fully bald. Only after my mother accepted this term, I have agreed for marriage\" . When I told this at home, instead of getting angry, my folks burst out laughing and said with a wink \" Go along, it will be nice\" .

Now, we have time till 9th of October to say yes or no. If I say yes the marriage will be in Jan/Feb. Since my religious parents do not want my long, so-far uncut hair to be cut in a beauty parlour for the first time, they want to get me fully tonsured in Tirupati in mid October so that I will have enough hair by marriage time for a nice boy cut. Now I want to know the following from the readers.

1. Is it worth accepting the proposal?
2. Is it okay to have a short boycut on a regular basis for a married girl?
3. Has any female the experience of having her suhag raat (' First night' ) with a bald head?
4. Is head tonsure really enjoyable?
5. What would be the reaction of people to a bald girl in working atmosphere?

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