Grief thats what my post can summarize. I was 12 weeks pregnant and had 12th week ultrasound done yesterday for detecting downsyndrome. Unfortunately the same day in morning I had mild brown bleeding as well. We went to see GP and as per her the baby was probably ok. The shock was awaiting use during ultrasound where they mentioned that the baby had no heart beat. I cried and requested the doctor to check once again which she did with the same results.

We were referred to a specialist Gyna who also did ultrasound with the same result. He advised us the advantages or disadvantages of having or not having a D&C and left the decision to us. I dont have any symptoms like heavy bleeding or abdominal pain but yes i have brown discharge.

Can I have some experts advise of if I should have D&C or wait for natural discharge. Any earliest reply shall be highly appreciated.

Kind Regards/unlucky ozmother HS replied. Hi friend,
Sorry for the happening..the same thing happened to me last week..in the first scan itself about 5-6 weeks..my child did not have the heart beat..we waited for another week and took another scan..they said clearly it is missed abortion..i had my D&C done which really ateup my entire physical and mental strength..i know how much pain you are undergoing at present both physical and mentally..even i am in the same stage..it is just few days i have lost my child..it was my first child..lets hope for the best the next time... Prit Ras replied. Hi,
I am sorry for your loss more so because I too went through the same thing.
My doctor said its a case of Blighted ovum where the embryo is not developed inside the embryonic sac but the symptoms of pregnancy is there. we chose a D&C and now me and my husband are going thru a series of genetic tests.I hope this helps and soon we become proud parents.
Best of luck to you too..I know its so hard to bear the loss but beleive me if there is faith there is a way.
Take care.
simba replied. OZMother,
I am so sorry for your loss. i KNOW IT IS HEART BREAKING AND THE PAIN JUST IS TOO MUCH. But always remember its Gods way of taking care of you so that you don't have a defective baby.
A D&C is a much better option physically as it is over in 1/2 hr.
In a natural mc you will have pain and heavy bleeding for some days or weeks since you are over 12 weeks now. Also as Aarti mentioned they can run chromosonal analysis on the fetus if a D&C is performed. They did it for my baby too last month. However the analysis was inconclusive ... so we did not get any answers as to why the baby died. So be prepared to not get answers if u opt for the chromosonal analysis. Hope that does not happen for you.
In my case I was given 2 weeks to naturally miscarry, but my body just didn't do it. I had no bleeding pain etc. Those 2 weeks were most miserable weeks in my entire life. So finally my husband and I decided to get a D&C to get some closre both emotionally and physically.
Emotionally honey, it will take some time for you to heal. And its fine to greive. Its only natural. Take your time. I am so sorry you have go through this. Remember eventually you will be successfull and have your bundle of joy.

Take care,
Simba

Simba replied. OZMother,
I am so sorry for your loss. i KNOW IT IS HEART BREAKING AND THE PAIN JUST IS TOO MUCH. But always remember its Gods way of taking care of you so that you don't have a defective baby.
A D&C is a much better option physically as it is over in 1/2 hr.
In a natural mc you will have pain and heavy bleeding for some days or weeks since you are over 12 weeks now. Also as Aarti mentioned they can run chromosonal analysis on the fetus if a D&C is performed. They did it for my baby too last month. However the analysis was inconclusive ... so we did not get any answers as to why the baby died. So be prepared to not get answers if u opt for the chromosonal analysis. Hope that does not happen for you.
In my case I was given 2 weeks to naturally miscarry, but my body just didn't do it. I had no bleeding pain etc. Those 2 weeks were most miserable weeks in my entire life. So finally my husband and I decided to get a D&C to get some closre both emotionally and physically.
Emotionally honey, it will take some time for you to heal. And its fine to greive. Its only natural. Take your time. I am so sorry you have go through this. Remember eventually you will be successfull and have your bundle of joy.

Take care,
Simba



Simba replied. OZMother,
I am so sorry for your loss. i KNOW IT IS HEART BREAKING AND THE PAIN JUST IS TOO MUCH. But always remember its Gods way of taking care of you so that you don't have a defective baby.
A D&C is a much better option physically as it is over in 1/2 hr.
In a natural mc you will have pain and heavy bleeding for some days or weeks since you are over 12 weeks now. Also as Aarti mentioned they can run chromosonal analysis on the fetus if a D&C is performed. They did it for my baby too last month. However the analysis was inconclusive ... so we did not get any answers as to why the baby died. So be prepared to not get answers if u opt for the chromosonal analysis. Hope that does not happen for you.
In my case I was given 2 weeks to naturally miscarry, but my body just didn't do it. I had no bleeding pain etc. Those 2 weeks were most miserable weeks in my entire life. So finally my husband and I decided to get a D&C to get some closre both emotionally and physically.
Emotionally honey, it will take some time for you to heal. And its fine to greive. Its only natural. Take your time. I am so sorry you have go through this. Remember eventually you will be successfull and have your bundle of joy.

Take care,
Simba



Simba replied. OZMother,
I am so sorry for your loss. i KNOW IT IS HEART BREAKING AND THE PAIN JUST IS TOO MUCH. But always remember its Gods way of taking care of you so that you don't have a defective baby.
A D&C is a much better option physically as it is over in 1/2 hr.
In a natural mc you will have pain and heavy bleeding for some days or weeks since you are over 12 weeks now. Also as Aarti mentioned they can run chromosonal analysis on the fetus if a D&C is performed. They did it for my baby too last month. However the analysis was inconclusive ... so we did not get any answers as to why the baby died. So be prepared to not get answers if u opt for the chromosonal analysis. Hope that does not happen for you.
In my case I was given 2 weeks to naturally miscarry, but my body just didn't do it. I had no bleeding pain etc. Those 2 weeks were most miserable weeks in my entire life. So finally my husband and I decided to get a D&C to get some closre both emotionally and physically.
Emotionally honey, it will take some time for you to heal. And its fine to greive. Its only natural. Take your time. I am so sorry you have go through this. Remember eventually you will be successfull and have your bundle of joy.

Take care,
Simba



Aarti replied. My deepest condolences. One of the advantages of D&C is that it can remove all the fetal tissue completely. With natural expulsion there are chances that only part of the tissue will come out and you might need a D&C anyway after that. Ofcourse that might not be necessary and you could naturally deliver everything.

You can check if a D&C will allow them to take some tissue sample for chromosomal analysis. I am not aware of it. this is a question for your doctor.

This must be a very hard time for you. Having gone through something like this myself I know the pain very well.

My prayers and best wishes, Aarti
K.Radha replied. Dear Ozmother,

I am so incredibly sorry to hear that your baby has died but what ever your decision regarding the delivery of your baby should really be one you & your husband choose. This is a very personal & emotional decision. A D&C would be quick and would be over by the time you wake from the anesthetic. And to wait for your baby to pass naturally will take more time but perhaps offer more memories for you.

It is funny that you mentioned you've a brown discharge. When I was in labour with my last daughter I arrived at the hospital to deliver I needed to use the bathroom & I too had a brown discharge. It seemed to be significant because I'd never had that with my previous 2 children. We learned that Ishani had died very shortly after when the midwife checked Ishani's heartbeat. I don't know if it has any meaning but I felt I should mention it. Are you living in Australia? I ask because of your screen name and because I live in QLD. Ozmother I can offer you nothing more than my deepest sympathies on the loss of your precious baby and my support should you need it. Bless you & take care