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Here it goes i know its rather long. I am upset all my life over dark skin i have tried all fairness creams yet not gotten fair what so ever. i have no confidence because i always feel inferior amongst my friends infact they show how much better they are then me!. You have probably figured out i am pakistani i am of a brown complexion in urdu it is called sanwali i guess in hindi too and all of my pakistani friends are fair. They actually make me feel so horrible because i am dark they pass comments like \";look how good i look in this pink shirt thank god i am light skinn and not dark i would look ugly in this\"; If i do not take this thinking offensive then what do i do. ALl my life i have spent feeling inferior by all desi people because i am dark skinn!! I wasn't like this always i was very light up until 7 yrs old then i gradually satart to become dark. now i am 15 and i am going through my first high school year with ZERO confidence. why does this have to happen to me. Am i being selfish for asking this? What else can i say i am hopeless i don't have any true pakistani friends..... they are extremely meann to me because i am dark. I know i should be great full all my like i have been. up until now i cant take it i feel liek running away. why cant i have decent frieds that do NOT make me feel bad because i am darker then they. Why do they always treat me like crap. WHY!!!!!???? I guess my question is where do i get good pakistani friends from? I live in the UK... obviously there isnt a huge variety of pakistani people to be friends with here. i mean if pakistani people are so mean to me here then what will i do when i go to pakistan??

Of course i want my fair skin back but how?????? all these fairness creams have done nothing for me then how do i get fair now. No one here can imagine the pain i go through EVERYDAY to feel so inferior by lighter people.
My skin type is normal saniya tell me how to get fair??? my life is in your hand i do not trust people anymore sorry to say not even anyone here while i type this in such pain. I don't know saniya i hate to say something mean but just for support who knows you could just say some tip to help me feel better and think i will get fair and i wont. Please save me that pity if you plan on doing that. I know you're really nice, but at this point of my life i do not need only nice. i need nice and working. Advise me something that will make me FAIR with 100% guaranty. I hope this question will help other young girls like me but i wish there is no one else out there in pain like me. sadiya replied. hi i m sadiya and i m 16 yrs old, i thought i would like u to know that our lifes are strangely similar, very very similar, i face the same kind of problems everyday, i thought this might make u feel better bcoz of knowing that there is someone other than u in this world that faces the same kind of exact problems and i would like to tell u that ur message did make me feel good, that i m not alone in this world with that stupid problem, by the way i m indian though and live in u.s. Zara replied. saniya i feel better to know that their are solutions. Unfortunatley their are such horrible people in this world all i can do is wish God could help them. Saniya thank you for solutions to my problems. I'm not allowed to chat online saniya i only have a e-mail address, i hope you don't mind. I would love to keep in contact with you here. I understand character is very improtatn so are looks, bhot bhot shukriya for your advice. God Bless You.

Shukriya.
saniya replied. dear zara,
i am not surpiresed after reading ur message.what u r going thru is racism which is found in almost every corer of the world.it's just because people feel that apparent beauty is real beauty while it's quite the opposite.i understand the pain u r experiencing.lemme tell u one thing..even if u get fair,these gals wont stop hurting u.they r just jealous of u probably cuz u have some better qualities.
the same thing happened with me.my coucins and aunts used to make fun of my skin colour and facial hair.that's y,i used natural remedies for fairness but now i have realised that maybe,i just wasted my time because they still continue making fun of some other defect even if its not there.its their purpose.
well,u must have read my diet tips.follow all of them+the sunblock n exercise tips.
for ur face,use besan+very little haldi+sandalwood powder+orange peel powder+almond powder+milk+few drops of lemon juice+few drops of almond oil.
apply this paste on ur face and neck for 30-40 minutes.then,scrub it off gently.
maybe the creams have made ur skin sensitive.if u get any adverse effects,stop using the mask i meantioned.instead,use cucumber juice+milk+lime juice.dear,it may take a lot of time.u need 2 be extremely patient.what is important is blemish free,smooth,glowing skin,not FAIR skin.;et ur frenz say what they like.in ur life,many ppl will say many things..u cant go about complaining about each of them and trying to change them.try to change urself.concentrate on ur character moree than ur looks.u should be smart and well groomed.this is the definition of 'good appearance.'
u cant call those people ur friends.a realf riend will try to uncover ur inner beauty and that's what's gonna keep ur friendship from lasting.
i can be ur friend!!!!just gimme ur id and we'll have a chat soon inshAllah.:D:D:D
with best wishes n lots of luv,
urs,
saniya xox

zara replied. saniya jee i am still waiting for your reply. hina replied. Hi Zara
First of all i wanna say that if your friends are making fun of you coz of ur complexion then you need to change ur attitude towards them so that they can stop doing this.Real friends dont do this to each other. I am sure you are a very pretty brilliant girl! Honestly dont let them say things to you, you should talk back and make them realize that you are way higher than them. Anyhow here is what sanya told me to do for fair skin! Try it i hope it works for you !!

1) drink a glass of warm water+juice of half a lemon+a tablespoon of honey daily first thing in the morning for fair and glowing skin.

2)soak methi leaves in water overnight.in the morning,on waking up,drink the water and eat the seeds for a fair complexion.

3)drink mint juice daily for fairness.
Zara replied. Listen so called \";Mina\"; Fairness creams only provide temporary results. After I get a bit fair discontinuing the use of it makes the fairness go away...using fairness creams results in lots of blemishes.
I want my super snow white fair skin back like I had as I was a child. Maybe I am lighter than you but consider myself even dark because I am not snow white fair as I was as a child.
I think you didn't read as I said I have normal skin, not ALLIGATOR SKIN!!!
BY THE WAY MIND your OWN business and stop being rude, this post was not addressed to a so called \";MINA\";. Mina replied. whats wrong with your skin. creams have helped me! do you have aligator skin or something.