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Saniya - what I have to say has nothing as at all to do with skin.. so I don't blame you if you're not interested in replying. But I really hope you can hear me out.. as I feel that I can trust you as a friend to give meaningful advice.

At the moment.. my social life is havock. I have 3 friends of which 1 is my best friend who I know pretty well. The only problem is.. its hurting me to see the other two take her away from me. They don't join me in.. and although I try my best to fit in, it never works! All they are interested in is her, and no-one else. She's like a goddess to them. Please dont get me wrong - I am not at all jealous.. but I get hurt very easily when things like this happen to me. I want everyone to join in and have fun, rather than all the attention focused on one person. It's not a nice feeling.

Secondly, my younger brother and sister are being out of order to me. Recently, my brother found the packaging of a whitening cream I had bought. He showed it to my mum.. and it's really embarssing because I would never have wanted her to know. They do these things on me by purpose.

I really hope you can help solve my situation. Any advice you can offer? Any would be appreciated. Allah-haz Saniya and thank you very much. With love,

Ria xxx Ria replied.
How can i repay you for the help you have given me? I've realised what I have to do.. and you have made me realise how worthles my friends are worth fighting for. Once again, thank you!

Love Ria xxxx saniya replied. dear ria,
i dont mind helping u as a friend.i understand how u must be feeling at the moment because even i have experienced friendlessness.
ria,have u ever taled to ur friends about this issue?im sure they have a good explanation.c..tackling this issue through a conversation is way better than making assumptions and ruining ur mind.
i have an idea.y dont u throw a party and invite just these 3friends of urs?u may tell them that u consider them as ur best friends and u thopugh it would be a good idea to get together sometime.enjoy as much as u can in the party and at the end of the party,when everyoone sits around and has a conversation,talk ur feelings out.let each one of ur friends give their opinion.maybe there had been some misunderstanding.
if they refuse to party,then just call them on a meeting and talk ur feelings out.be polite and expressive.if u still find them guilty,then talk privately to ur best friend.tell her how u feel.tell her that u have been great friends since a long time and now u feel she is deserting u which really hurts.im sure she will understand.at the same time,dont tell her to leave those other 2 girls.as a human,everyone has the right to make friends as long as they r not spoilt brats.im sure they arent since they had been ur buddies too.
if none of them cares about ur feelings,y do u ruin ur life for those people who dont even care?leave them and make new friends.
let me tell u one thing...ur best friend after Allah is always ur mom.u can tell her everything,infact,u should tell her everything.nobody on earth loves u more than her.she has suffered the pain to bring u into this world and so lovingly she has nurtured u.lok back into time and u will definitely c that no one has ever loved u more than ur mother.go,talk to her,cry n her soulder.she will give u the best assistance and company.take er as a friend.help her and play games with her.she deserves the most from u and not anyone else.
regarding ur sibling issue,its a very normal thing dear.even i am the eldest and daily,i have to listen to scolding from my parents due to them.but c..they r not ur enemies.they just like to tease u since they cannot scld u or beat u like u do to them since ur older.be friendly with ur siblings and love them a lot.dont scold them constantly.they think that u exist for the only purpose of ordering them.u r viewed as a devil.and ur brother is just paying back.u need to change this view point and act as a loving,caring and above all,forgiving sis.ask ur bro if he hates anything about u.then,try to improve urself.
u should not hide anything from ur mom dear.the biggest mistake people do in this world is look up at other people for help who can do nothing and forget their mom's who pray for them day and night and are always ready to help in the best way.make ur mom ur best friend.she is he one who can never deceive,disappoint or betray u.
i hope all this helps.
i will be praying 4 u.
with best wishes,lots of luv and sincere prayers,
ur friend,
saniya