I had gone for nuchal transluency test & got 1:5 risk ratio for Trisomy 18.Went for level 2 u/s end of 4th month & they said baby measured too small & that the amniotic fluid was very low.The only reason for this they said was Trisomy 18.Because of the fluid being low they couldn't even do 2nd level u/s or even amniocentesis.They have scheduled for cvs tomorrow.Regardless according to the doc the baby won't survive.We may have to terminate if all results show positive for trisomy 18.
This is our 1st baby & got preg after trying for 1 1/2yrs.....I can't even think of going through all that again....can't accept the fact that this has happened to us.After praying to God day n night without fail praying that my baby is fine & healthy.
I can't imagine the pain i will have to go thru in CVS & termination.....and then trying for the 2nd all over again.
I have told all my friends & relatives about the preg & now will have to explain what has happened to us.I feel miserable.....crying ever since I heard this....feel so helpless.....I can't do anything to save my baby.....my poor baby girl....
rekha replied. thank u both for your support.....I guess I will take it as it comes....leave everything to God GA replied. Dear Rekha,

I can understand how shattered you must be feeling. It was 10 days ago when I delivered my stillborn son. We did not terminate but I was induced because there was no heartbeat. I have been getting some solace by logging onto http(://)hygeia(.)org. It is a website meant for mothers with pregnancy loss. They are a very supportive group.

I know what you mean by talking to your baby. This was my second pregnancy and I had taken it for granted. I even started looking for baby clothes and deciding when to ask my mother to arrive and take care of the delivery. All those plans seem so foolish. Even I have close friends who have either delivered or close to delivery.

Please take it one day at a time. You will find that people might not say the right thing. Because they do not really know what to say. Some people tell me \";it is for the best. you can have other kids\";. I want to cry loudly and tell them \";I might have other kids but I will always miss the one I lost. How can this be for the best?\"; Try to join some online group with people who have gone through the same experience. Atleast they know what they are talking about.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Rk replied. Hi Rekha,

I can understand what u wudbe facing as I too had to face all these things last month.In the 6th month of pregnancy I went of U/S and found that the brain was not formed and need to terminate the baby and this is the 1st time pregnancy for me.This happened on 26th of July when I started talking to my baby who was breathing and could hear his heartbeat as well.We even started searching names for him and I packed my things to go to my mom's place for the delivery and baby shower and this incident took place.I am the 1st sibling in my family and my hubby is 1st sibbling in his family, so things were worse as our parents were waiting for the baby eagerly.Last month same day I had to terminate the baby.And the worse thing is that my Hubby's cousin's wife(My co-sis) and my hubby's cousin Sister are also carrying and expecting baby in Jan where as mine was in Nov.And we are all in same city and go to the same doctor.And their reports are normal.So u can imagine the amount of depression I wud be facing.This month 9th and 10th they had their baby shower function here and mine did not happen so u can imagine the pain i wud have undergone.I am sorry if i bugged u.I was just trying to let u know that my case was similar and I have 2 people carrying b4 me.. So please dont worry abt people and relatives they wud always comment and they exist to comment..
Please thing that what ever happens is good for us as something good is waiting.Instead of having a abnormal baby or a baby who is not normal after delivery its better not to have a baby.I can understd what u wud be feeling as I felt the same last month.Think that you knew this now rather than comming to know abt this after 9months when evry 1 is eager to c the baby.Thanks to Science..Now u need to be brave and take things +vely and take care of ur hubby as well..
Please keep in touch..