I am seven months pregnant, but i remain depressed nowadays because of my family. My husband is least bothered about me and my child. I have got UTI and presently i am on medication. ALso I remain very tired because of my working schedule. My doctor has asked me to take rest but my husband thinks its just a way of me not doing the work. He invites guests at last hour and make me stand in kitchen for hours. He does not even bother to tell me in advance that he will be calling someone. I have a very tight work schdule of 8:30 am to 6:30 pm.
I remain very depresed and don' t understand how much will this affect my child.
Please help and suggest me something.
namratha replied. hello friend,

i too was experiencing a tough time during my pregnancy. my husband also didnt take proper care of me and my child when i was pregnant. he didnt show me a good dr. we went to a cpstly hospital but the dr was nt good she didnt give my any vitamins or calcium tablets till 7th month. my sister in dubai sent me few ayurveda medicines and i thnk only because of that i and my child didnt die due to anaemia. my hsband used to tease me infront of his relatives and he and sister were looking eyeto eye and smile in an irritating way. when i tell this to him, he will quarel. and i even cried while sitting in front of food many days. i didnt eat properly. my mind was full of angry, frustration and revenge to my husband and his family. still i dont love his family. after baby is born they all tell its their baby. but when she was inside me nobody was therre and only my sisiter and mother werethere to support me. not even my husband. nowi say tit for tat to my husbandand his relative. my husband changed a lil bit but still the poison is inside in his blood inherited fm his family. i strongly believe that one day they all will suffer. his sisterand her daughetr are the main persons to make troubles. his mter is also not good. i hate them all. and curse them everyday.. now my daughter is 3 years old i hate them till they die sometmes even after that.... ck replied. It is very sad to hear your situation. Pregnant women react more emotionally and take things to heart very easily. Try to believe that your husband may not be realizing your situation and does not do these things intentionally. Tell him when you both are in good mood that you get tired and feel depressed easily. You yourself is upset that you are more tired in the last trimester and not able to keep up with cooking etc even to feed yourself. Don' t blame him that he is adding more work to you. Just tell that you are not able to handle things and you need his help atleast to understand you.

Even I' m in the 7th month and I sometimes feel nobody is worried abt me or my husband is not taking good care of me etc. I feel angry on my family, close friends and parents too. I think it is pregnancy hormones that make us react this way so blame on it and try to relax. Eat something that you like and try to concentrate on things that make you happy. Think of happy events, thoughts, of the coming baby, prepare for the baby' s arrival, try to distract yourself. Find somebody and get homecooked takeout food whenever you are tired. Don' t stress yourself with cooking/cleaning. When you are tired these feelings will be on the top of your head. When you feel good, esp in mornings, cook few dishes and refrigerate so you can eat when you are tired so you don' t have to cook. Buy a small slowcooker, make dals/pulses etc, just put thadka and eat with rice/roti. Easy and healthy to make and eat. Its lots of advice from me, hope you don' t mind. I wish you feel better soon.

Good Luck,
CK