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I have been reading a few articles posted elsewhere on India Parenting about women who are being physcially abused (even if it is just once right now) by their spouse. There maybe some women out there who just don't want to write but will read. Let's help them out and give them some advice or disucss our personal experience.

I am totally against any form of abuse on women. There is never a reason to be abused by your husband or in-laws. There is no such thing as deserving to be punished as some men or in-laws like to put it. We, women, need to become strong and fight back. Let us not take any form of abuse especialy physcial or sexual from our partners.

Friends please post your advice here. Me Too! replied. Well who ever visits this site will and shud know that physical abuse is an absolute NO NO in a marriage!

I couldn't believe it when my husband hit me one night at 2 am in the morning simply becos I got irritated with the baby who was so active and I was so sleepy and I complained about it. Sounds too petty a reason right! Well that was what happened and suddenly I could see us moving from one thing to another and all of a sudden I was being pounded at and slapped and beaten and pushed and hair pulled etc.....I got so angry that I started to scream and that got him off me and then came the bigger battle ......He held on to my baby and I couldn't get the kid off him. At 3 in the morning he was asking me to get out of the house and I had only one thing on my mind that I wouldn't go without my baby.....so eventually I tricked him got hold of my howling and terrorised child and left at the unearthly hour and went straight home to my parents. My terror stricken child could only look blank and cling on to me. I lodged a police complaint and refused to accept any of his calls.....One day was enough torture for him. The next day he and I had this real long talk and I made it very clear to him that I am made of sterner stuff than he can ever imagine and that I would do unto him what he can't even imagine one can do . Ofcourse he had already realised the pain of staying away in that time and he has behaved himself ever since.

It is definitely important for the husbands to know that being a man does not qualify them to do as they please !Women have to be smart in that way and let them know it and not suffer quietly!

I actually coud not believe that I had become another statistic. When my maids used to come beaten black and blue I would cousel them about how they must stand for their rights but here I was being battered with no clue as to why and how to get out of the mess! Concerned replied. Dear Friends,

Physical abuse is something that we shudder to think about when it comes to ourselves...yet there are so many women who bear it in silence...Physical abuse doesnt just affect u physically...it dampens your spirit and mind! In some cases it could lead to depression and low self-esteem...And it is the same case in a much amplified form for children exposed to this ill fate.

When we grow up i'm sure we cannot tolerate physical torcher even by our parents..when that is the case how can anyone tolerate abuse by husbands and in-laws? Just because he is a man doesnt give him ANY right to raise his hand against the wife and children. How embarassed would he be if he were slapped in front of his parents? In front of his children. Women have emotions too...We are not made of rock to tolerate abuses over and over again.

In my opinion, Women should put their foot down and defend themselves when it comes to Physical abuses. They should let their spouses know that they will not tolerate being beaten or slapped AT ANY COST!!! Marriage is sacred but that doesnt justify toleration on the women's part only!!!

Those who face this currently...first of all u should not sulk in silence. Take somebody in confidence and talk about it. When u summon enough courage and determination face your husband and tell him that that'll be the last time u will take any such animal treatment from him. Be very assertive...fight for your cause...Tell him u will speak to a counsellor or the police regarding this and take serious action if he tries it again. Please dont bother about their feeling in the process...U are not insulting him...u r warning him. And beleive me, it MIGHT just work for u. Dont let it happen to u ever again...
Good luck to u...keep us informed!!!