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i just came across few posts here and felt like sharing my experience. I don' t know y i m doing this .. i don' t think i m in search of any ans as evrything is almost ended now .. anywsy
i faced prob from my real parents for money .. i has been always a unwanted bagge for them. so i had to face many problems while taking education and then starting careear as they were not supportive but after i became financially independent .. i mean after i started workng they started harrassing me for money .. they never allowed me handle my sal acc initially and even for train pass i had to beg in front of them for 2/3 wks everytime. then one of my relative interfeared and made them handover my sal acc .. almost after 4yrs of my job .. but then tourture was more .. they stopped my food at home daly used to abuse me badly .. used to beat me for some or other reason.. and this continued for nect few yrs.. on the other hand they isolated me from our relatives/ frens and made impression tht i m very unsocial, and out of contol girl.. nobody knew how badly they used to torture me daily except people from my society.
they didn' t allow my marriage happen by telling evrybody tht she doesn' t want to get marry .. she just wants to keep on working and we don' t take her money. would like to say tht even after i started handleing my sal acc they used to torture me for money.. though they had stopped food, if they found even 2/3K in my acc .. they used to beat me on tht.. i fgot frustred by all this and finally left job .. in tht small period i did little savings my opening ane more bank acc without letting them know..
i left job and told them tht if they create obstacle in my marriage i wont work but they r not letting it happen .. i don' t hv affair in fact by father even now follows me even if i go for mornig walk .. he doesn' t want me get invloved with anybody and on the other hand they a not looking out for me .. they are showing people tht they r not greedy it' s my fault and i has been rejecting all proposals as i don' t want to get marry .. they tell me tht u r thirty + now .. till now we didn' t allowed it to happen and will not let it happen .. u shud just work and give us all money and take care of household work .. they keep abusing me, beating me .. they threat continuously to kill me if i don' t listen to them .. if i try to tell anybody how they r treating me then they say tht i m mentally distrubed and i imagne tht they beat me with wood and all .. there r no of things now .. but i m alredy feeling so helpless .. when i see all my frens got married hving kids .. i can' t tell u how miserable i feel .. even now i lost hope .. intially thought something will work out . somebody will help me but nobody is ready to interfear in family problems .. i wanted to hv family/kids but i just don' t know the way ..
as these r my real parents nobody believes me .. in fact i don' t want this life anymore Mel replied. First things first. You are an independent, capable person. Leaving your job is a silly thing to do. Preferably, look for a new job in another city. Ask someone to help you find accommodation there. And move out ! Everything else will happen after that.