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I' m usually the soft going kind of woman ,who' s scared of quarrels.I had little troubles in the beginning of my marriage but now seemingly everything' s fine,untill my BIL got married and my co-sister entered.She was very straight-forward and was friendly with me.She slowly started gossiping with me about our in-laws and in the beginning though I was reluctant I started sharing some of my bitter experiences with her gradually.I never realised she is an aggressive person and one fine unfortunate day she as usual turned aggressive and revealed one or two shared things of mine to my in-laws.Though she took a supportive tone in my favour I never wished she revealed any of my feelings.Now my in-laws turned bitter towards me(otherwise I had a little or more healthy relation with them)and my worst fear is if she reveals more then.....what should I do now? hp replied. I ' ve gone through a somewhat similar situation like that of P.But the difference is that my co-sister had lied about me that I shared similar contempt and hatred on my in-laws ,with her as much as she had.She used my name and lied before everyone that I shared all my bitterness and hard feelings with her.I was devastated by this as she had put me in a completely uncomfortable situation before my husband.I cried lonely as I could not prove my innocence since evryone believed what she said.I was emotionally tortured by her fake confessions and evryone' s sarcastic remarks and long lessons.
And now she' s trying to call me ,don' t know for what new reason,everytime when everybody leave home.This is a new torture for me.I was so much disturbed by her behaviour and decided not to talk to her again.
If I say I don' t want to talk to her anymore,I know she' ll create some other new story around me to make me a victim.And that is why I' m not even answering her calls.I went through a lot of emotional toil becuase of her.My husband who very much loves me,is disturbed by this.Though he didn' t question me for all this(that' s the happiest part of all,atleast he understood me),I had to struggle hard to prove my innocence.God forbid this situation.But I now understand that a person' s face is never the index of his /her mind. SS replied. hi P, y dont u do the same, am suer she must hav poured in her feelings, u sahre those wid ur in laws, or atleast tel herb that u can do the same too. N if none of this works , just deny n dont accept that u said anysuch thing n tel ur ILs that shez trying to spoil ur relation wid them. jaise log miley u shud traet them that way, gud luk -)