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I need some sincere advice from u. U can read my previous posts to know in what situation I am. My husband does not understand me and we have are not on talking terms since some time. My inlaws stay with us and make my life hell. My husband never understands this and tells me that if i cannot adjust I am free to go. I feel like I am the only person wanting to workon this marriage and there is no adjustment from his sides. His mom thinks that I should spend all the time with them and should not spend anytime with my friends. They accompany us to pretty much everywhere we go. And as a young couple we never had that private time. I am disgusted as how my DH cannot understand my trauma and I am depressed and worried most of the time. I dontwant kids as of now since my MIL will dominate me all the more. Its been 4 yrs since our marriage. I wish to get seperated. Am i feeling right? charu replied. Hi try for some more time and still if u feel the same u can part ur ways.
Iam also in the same situation and always feel depressed but have a child so cannot do anything.
Please dont plan kids until and unless u feel comfortable in that place.
we got one life and its upto us to some extent how we plan it.
best of luck aa replied. hi Priya, i sense that you are feeling really low and worried about your life....What happened to make things much worse? was there an incident that you are not talking with your husb? The truth, il' s WILL ALWAYS INTERFERe...even my own fil complains to my parents that he is disappointed in me, i' m apparetnly not treating his other kids properly...DIL\" S get blamed for everythig, my il' s also tell me to spend time with them, but they do not like me, why should I? they talk bad to my face and behind my back....how can i forget? how can i?? Priya, how do you feel about your husb? (honestly?)..sometimes i to feel like i am the only one that cares about my marriage, my husb also give me the cold shoulder..but you know why i stay..Look inside yourself, study both sides, the good parts of your husb and the bad...It is very hard for you since your il' s are staying with you and constatnly there, can you tell your husb, that maybe just the 2 of you can go away together for a few days? do your ils also want you to leave? how does your own family feel? Try to make your husb understand that this marriage is important, perhaps give it one more try...take care of yourself..and keep us posted.