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My baby is 10.5 months. I am a housewife. I live in a joint family. I feel very frustrated and depressed all the time staying in the house doing all the house work. I want to be financially independant for both my baby' s and my sake since all the money that my hubby earns is controlled by my in-laws. Though I have been married for nearly 2 years and however hard I try to adjust with them, they dont cooperate with me. They try their level best to hurt me in all the ways possible everyday. My hubby doesnt have the guts to take my side in front of them. He just obeys their orders.

They are not happy with my decision to go to work since it will make me independant. I have got a job offer but I cant decide what to do about my baby. My MIL doesnt answer me propery at all if i ask her is it ok if i keep a maid in the house to do all the work plus look after the baby. My FIL says me to leave the baby in the house and keep a maid. But my MIL is the boss of the house and she finds faults with all the servants. She keeps shouting at the servants and can never adjust with them plus make them do extra work and pays them less.

Can somebody please give me some suggestions about what to do. If I leave my baby in the day care, will they look after it properly? Will they give food properly? I just cant decide. Plese help me urgently...
sarlas replied. dear if possible leave ur kid in day care & start working. even i had kept my girl in crench since she was just 8 mths sss replied. dear nnn,
since your baby is already 10.5 months old,its okay if you start working.also it will make you independant and more happy.your child will learn to adjust and anyway he will start schooling in a couple of yrs.your mil will have doubts in her mind just like you.so she is not answering properly.but since you already got permission from fil & hubby(i assume he also agrees),just accept the offer.keeping a maid is a much better option than daycare.for first two yrs,they say home based care is the best for babies.also you have the added advantage that you have inlaws to take care of your child.
just learn to do what you feel is right for you.then it will be right for your family also.afterall,your happiness will bring happiness to your baby and hubby.
all the best
sss