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My H is basically a nice persons.Although our wavelenghts are different we manage a pretty good life.Sometimes what irritates me is he doubts me .......He questions unneccesary things abt my male collegues..
Some times he makes a big drama even a neighbour says HI .other times he looks very ok with it.
Am a very open persons.I did even stop the most of lunches with mt male collegues unless it is neccesary.
Why does he torture me like that at times......
How can I make him understand that I never do anything to hurt him.

I used to be very modren before wedding I even dropped wearing few things he doesn' t like ....With all these quarells I even lost interest to get ready.
Are all men like that ? I know men are possesive....is in normal ??
is it just happeninf to me?
Sometimes I just feel like running away.
Gals please suggest. Nishant replied. I don' t mean to be very blunt or anything, but suspicion is a very ugly state that seldom vanishes. I' ve known quite a few people (both woman and men) who' ve had this problem and the only three possibilities I' ve seen so far are:
1. Try getting professional counseling for your partner with a suspicious mind. But this has to be done with care otherwise this might lead to more suspicion and unnecessary overdose of abuse. I' ve not seen many people recover fully, but have at least learned to control.
2. Get divorced. If you cannot stand such humiliation and abuse, you have every right to get divorced. If you are financially independent, then it is easier for you to get over and move on.
3. Suffer in silence. Though this takes a toll at your mental strength, many people do survive this.
Resmi replied. Hi,
I was about to post my worries on how husbands doubt wives, and I saw this. With my husband, its not even my male colleagues whom he has doubts on. He doubts on fruit vendors, shop keepers, milkman, newspaper wala, and all males with whom I interact. Please note that I am a software professional, and a team lead, married for 5 years now. I have given up wearing even normal kurtis and skirts , cos they dont come with a duppatta! Imagine my kind of life then! Only yday did I walk into a fruitshop with my 3 yr old daughter, and she was asking me to buy so many varieties of fruits. It took about 10-15 mins to finish buying and lo.. he walked into the shop and insulted me in front of that shopkeeper asking me what affair I was starting off with that guy. I do nt know how to change him. At times I feel that I am going mad.Also,when there is a deliverable at office, I come home early after assigning work to my team members. If ever they make a call at home to discuss something over work also, he starts shouting. I really do not know how to solve all this.. I think my life is wasted... but otherwise he is ok... Rose replied. hey...
Its really sad to know wat you are going thru, i dnt think all men are like this my husband is a very open person..Infact when we were married mine is a arranged marriage.. i was in love with another guy and my husband came to know abt it,but he sat with me and actually disscussed with me wat was happning and weather i was foced to marry him and all... i was so happy the way he handled the matter, though it took a while we are happily married its 2yrs now... but in these 2 yrs he never mention anything abt my bf even if we had worst fights or never doubt me...

so touch wood i' m blessed with the husband like him.

Doubt is a very bad thing...once it gets in someone' s mind it will never go. you need to disscuss this with your husban the way you feel abt it when he asks you all these questions... and wat are his insecurities?? i mean you can compromise your whole life. see if you could get a help with any kind of marriage counselling.