Hi girls,

This is one last desperate try to solicit some help from you all re R's sleeping or rather non sleeping issues. We have been letting him cry so that he sleeps on his own. Parso also gave him Benadryl. He cried for 2.15 mins aftre which thak haarkar I had to hold him. Yesterday even though he was maha sleepy from 8pm he slept only at 11pm. Woke up at 12 and then 2 and then 4.20 I fed him. Refused to feed properly as he was too sleepy. Laga jaise he will sleep properly now at least for 3 hrs. But he was up in 15 mins. Started howling. We let him cry from 4.45-6.24 AM with occasional patting but he refused to sleep at all. Godi mein lete him chup ho gaya. Got a jhar from hubby coz I picked him up. He is still not sleeping bbut playing and it is 7am almost. Puneet is getting ready to go to work. I am dreading the day ahead of me. Am terribly sleep deprived and am feeling almost dead. Dont know what to do. Even if I forget all the times he woke up at nite, from 11 to 4ish is just 5 hrs. Will most likely have another migraine today coz of exhaustion and sleep deprevation. Dont know what to do. Am thinking why did I ever decide to have a baby. Just venting at 7 am in the morning. Hope you understand. I am not feeling any love for him now. Gosh, dont get me wrong but I am half no more than half asleep.
CAN ANYONE HELP ME? Is there anything that I can feed him so that he sleeps better-or at all I should say???
PLEASE HELP ME FRIENDS...
Desperately seeking some help and advice,
The very frustrated Reena Momfor two replied.
Reena ,

Its not easy to \";bacche ko bada karna\";. You know now why they say the mother is god , the mother is everything and lots of stuff for mother. Kiddos needs love, love and love. Do not just ignore him when he cries . Carry him and hug . My child is 6 months and sooooooo quite though I have to pass throgh sleepless night when he is having cold or something. For the sleep try Music. Like Nursery rhymes or whaterver you have. Children really love Music and sleeps fast. Do not get frustrated , the more you frustrate more p-roblems you will get. Ohhhhh, lots of advice no.... But I really love kids and can do anything . sleepless night is nothing. Chaya replied. Hi Reena,
Hope R is better now....i feel that u need to start solids as soon as possible....may be ur BM is not enough....try it out....hope R gives u the much wanted sleep tonite...
take care,
Chaya
P.S dont worry i feel the same way as u abt kids when they r too cranky & we reach ur limit..... so take it easy.... Tweeti replied. when santhosh is cranky to go to sleep, these are somethings that work(not always)
i carry him infant style and rock him up down motion with him close to my chest saying shhhhh shhh and i stand in front of a fan, the direct cool breeze helps and he drifts off to sleep.
as Srilatha said some S cries when he hasn't burped well, and if we don' carry him he is so cranky and after carrying for a while he gives a loud burp....sometimes he doesn't, but when we lay him down he spits up:(

night before last S was maha alert and would not sleep...i tried everything from 12:45 am to 2:30...then his dad comes and carries stillhe wouldn't...so we just let him tire out and then when he was cuddled up next to daddy he slept within 15 min...moral...sometimes kiddos are bored with moms...

try calling the ped...they might have good suggestions. during my last dr visit when S was 5 months ped told us not to let him cry out too much at this stage, since they haven't yet learnt to manipulate, but probably need genuine comfort, consolation (S used to wake up every 1.5 hrs at night) after 6 months or so they learn how to manipulate....so ask ur ped.

take care,
Tweetie
Srilalitha replied. Hi,
I can understand ur situation. Been through that.

1)Per my doc, children cry and refuse to sleep when are unable to burp. So make sure he burps after the feed. Also, a home remedy we follow is to apply castor oil around the navel. THis will soothe the stomach, in case it is a stomach related prob.

2) Check the room temp. May be he is not comfortable.

3) Since you say he is silent when in ur lap, you could maybe put him on ur stomach /chest and hug him, and go off ro sleep. THis way both of u get to sleep. Kaaustaaub got cranky once my parents left after their visit. We came to a conclusion that it was insecurity. So, I tried this, and still so. This was soo handy for me when Kaaustaaub is cranky and I was exhausted too. I did this despite severe opposition from my folks.

4) Also, you could try this. Take him out for a ride in the car. In the fresh cool air he goes off to sleep.

These are some stuff we follow religiously to get him to sleep. Hope this helps.

Sri Sandhya M replied. Hi Reena

Getting a child into a proper sleep schedule is extremely important for obvious reasons.I am saying this because I have established one for my son which is working out well.You might have noticed that I write sometimes on this board about topics which relate to me and my son very well.

Till my son started solids(5 months),it was a crazy sleeping schedule.He was waking up every 3 hours to feed.Till 7 months,I used the pacifier to help him settle down in the night.Then,the pacifier was off and I started putting him directly in the crib in his room when he was sleepy(around 8.30 p.m.).Initially,he howled for some time but he got used to it.It's been getting better since then.I brestfed him till 10 months.Now,he has his milk around 8.15 p.m.and is off to bed by 8.30-8.45 p.m.He also has fixed nap schedules during the day.He mostly sleeps through the night.Some people allow the child to cry through the night for some days(Ferber method)to allow him to learn sleep on his own.I am not sure if my heart would have allowed me to do that.I will surely say that a child should not become addicted to a way of going to bed(rocking,feeding etc.)

I am sorry for the long post and hope that this helps.

Have a good weekend.

Sandhya
June 2004 board Jayashree replied. HI Reena,

I agree with Padoo, you call up his ped today and talk to him/her, If you dont call up today then you will have to wait until monday.
They should be able to guide you in this matter.

I really hope things get better for you.

Jayashree
padma replied. Hi Reens,

I'm so sorry for you yaar.. Please take Rishu to a doctor. Pronto...

That he cried for 2 hours is not a normal thing!! As per my ped, anyhting continuos more that 45 mins is off the limit.

You're saying that he is chup in your godi na? Maybe it's some ache that is soothed when you hold him (they say haath/godh hi garmi se, pains become dull).

How do you feed him. In your lap or lying down? Kich relaxes when he's feeding lying down next to me (his head will be in the crook of my arm). when he's maha cranky i let him drift off to sleep on my breast and lie with him like this at least for an hour before 'putting him down'.
If he wakes up then, there's no go -me and hubby take turns and sit with him in our lap..

Please take care and keep the faith..

Paddoo
Reena replied. Sorry, I meant 2hrs and 15 mins above and not just 2.15 mins...guess that was understood...
please help...
Reena