Hi,
I know that on these due-datewise message boards all new moms discuss issues related to their new borns.....and I am a new mom too so please I request u to kindly have the patience to read thr' my story and please share ur views....
My hubby is very much attached to his BIL's family especially my nephew # 1.As this nephew was born before we got married,so hubby dear showered all his love,affection and so on and so forth on this fellow....continued
doing do even after I got married.Initially this \";lagaav\"; for our nephew did not bother me but after an year or so of marriage it started irritating me....pls don't get me wrong.....but isin't it every girl's dream to have the no.1 place in ur hubby's heart,well ,I always felt that I had to share this place with his nephew!!!
I became a mom in late 2004....and somehow I have a sneaky feeling that my hubby still adores his nephew more than our baby.As such, my
hubby takes care of our baby very lovingly....changes his diapers,takes care of
him on weekends so that I can get some rest,takes loads and loads of pics of our baby and things like that.....never compares our baby with our
nephew....but I can't get this thing out of my mind that he cares more abt his nephew.
I feel that he is not exited abt our baby at all......never talks abt the triumphs and mischief's of our baby in the way he used to talk abt his nephew when we got married.Infact after we got engaged and used to hang
out together....my hubby used to keep on blabbering abt his nephew....infact instead of planning our future,his nephew was the only thing we discussed (I feel so angry at myself now....how cud I let him get away with that?)
I feel helpless and frustrated and feel unlucky ....I had always consoled myself by saying that once we have our own baby things will be different....but they aren't ......please tell me whether I am overreacting.....and what should I do to deal with this situation?
-a new mom KM replied. Hi there

don't be frustrated, as u r a new mom, this might be your post-partum depression. do u have any niece/nephew of ur own?? from ur message, it sounds like NO, if u would have had it would be easier for u to understand ur husband's feelings for his nephew. i have a nephew who was born before my marriage, & i m really attached to him. i have my own daughter now, and she is my world. but i also love all my nieces & nephews. My dad also always loved all my cousins, sometimes he would forget my birthday but not his nephews/nieces, but that never meant that he didn't care for us or love us. Noboday can take place of one's own son or daughter or wife's. Don't compare his love for u with his nephew, he is just a kid, & all the kids are lovable. i would just say that stop comparing all the loves, everybody makes his/her own place in heart whether as a wife, son, daughter or a mom, every relation has a meaning and affection, & just respect them. I hope you don't mind my words.

KM a frustrated new mom replied. I made a mistake in my posting....
My husband is very much attached to MY BIL's family(that is his elder brother's family)....sorry abt that....