I totally agree w/Archana on the thot of no help from anyone & the pressure from family to have a \";son\";..they kind of put it very delicately that \";phir family complete ho jayegi\";..as if f'lies w/daughters aren't \";complete\";..how \";takiyanusi khayals\";..& then there are others who predict that next time definetly ladka hi hoga types...
& w/Pads that even my husband wasn't too keen on having a baby right now...I had to totally black mail him on the fact that increased paternal & maternal age may lead to complications wala lecture...so as a result my own feelings are totally anti child 2 right now..
I guess I expected too much from people...khair..I have this childhood dream of adopting a kid..infact at one point in college when I wa going thru' the no marriage for me phase I had visualised my life w/a kiddo which I had adopted..& I was quite vehement about this phase of my dream comming true..so lets see jab 30 yrs mein kuch bhi haasil nahi kiya so atleast I should keep one dream alive & work towards it.. padma replied.
I used to dream of adopting a girl too.. I've always thought of it and when i was going through the PCOS routine, i almost did it!!

When i was ruminating about this once Kich was born, my ma discouraged me, 'coz in India adoption is now very tough.. She says jinke kids nahin hein, unhe hi nahin mil raha he and that i shouldnt spoil their chances by standing in the line.

let's see. I also want to undo the C-sec feeling in my mind bu maybe having a 'successful', 'normal' delivery next time.

I'm worried though, 'coz i so want a girl baby and if it turns out to be a boy again....

Well, Radha's stuff about peer pressure about having a boy - my parents are from the matriarchy way (that's why i have my mom's name as my initials) and hubby's from patriarchy. MIL was thrilled to have a boy and we were all hoping for a girl!

The best way is to ignore these \";angootha jhaap\"; stuff!

Love to Tia!

Paddoo