Hi Mommies
Just wanted to start a new topic...anyone \";thinking\"; about Issue-2 ?????
Will write about Tia & my life later ....!!
Someone at the park where I take Tia asked me & my hubby the other day & we both gave such diametrically different answers...!! I for one said NO...p'bably never..& Hubby said lets see..I was sooooooooo shocked..I didn't bring it up later at all..Khair my life is undergoing enormous upheavels right now to discuss this chapter..so I thot it would be correct to bring it up here....
sush Vani replied. Dear Sush,

May be even I would have thought about it if Rishi was a girl... but now I do want to try again after say 3 years and have a daughter. Shyam is ok with the second one actually. He asked me what I would do if the second is gonna be a boy too... and I spontaneously replied that I will keep trying till I get a girl!!! Though that is not possible, I will earnestly pray for a girl and try when Rishi completes 3 years.

Love,
Vani Archana replied.
I can understand Sush's shock very well.. I felt the same when my hubby started talking (ofcourse just talking, generally) abt scenario of second baby when Radha was not even one month!

Radha being a girl child, the relations ofcourse said next time let there be boy to make the family complete (!!!!).. Yes, that kind of people still exist inside the so-called well educated human beings. Neway, those are the people who do not matter to me at all, so leave it.

Hubby (and my mom too) feels the same way as Paddoo's mom. Imagine Radha would be alone when she grows up etc etc. I agree (in my mind) with them.

But looking back at my whole pregnancy and till today the whole experience do not ring many pleasant memories for me (ofcourse except from my inner feelings of being pregnant and now a mother). Its a long story.. to cut it short, I faced lots of problems during my pregnancy, not the medical one (except the bed-rest in first trimester for 5 weeks) but \";situational\";. Did not get the expected support from anybody except my own parents (not even hubby). And that whole experience has taught me one thing for sure, I cannot handle it ALONE anymore. Pregnancy needs lots of love, care, attention and help from your family. If it is not possible to get all that, one should better re-think.

Hey why am I bothering you with all this gloomy thoughts..?

Point is: till the time I am completely recovered from the past and also till the time I learn to manage my home, office and Radha very well, answer is NO from me. Who knows what the future holds for us...
-Archana.

P.S. : I have already got multi-load from my doc when Radha was around 1.5 month old, which should work for 3 years (anyway, I don't think that was needed looking at the \";love\"; life ;-)) padma replied.
I dont know..I know I'll love Kich more than my second baby, 'coz the sheer thrill, anxiety and the longing will not be the same...

This being the case, should i? Won't i be unfair to the second one?

I would love to have a girl though! And i'd love to be pregnent again...

Like my mom says... think about Kichu being all alone in this world after we pass on... If he has a younger one.. they'll look out for each other..

I havent talked to Sanj about this ( i have this sneaky feeling that he's not feeling great about having this one itself, 'coz the focus and attention have shifted from him now)

Lets see.. Rajashree replied. Dear Sush,
Me and my hubby also never agree on this topic..I Would love to have another baby when Sid is almost 3.5 yrs old..Maybe a cute lil baby girl..:-)..
But hubby dear says-NO !!Ek hi kafi hai..
lets see kya hotha hai..abhi uske liye waqt hai...
Love,
Raj..