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I have a strange problem and not sure what should I do.
My MIL has come to stay with us for 6 months. She has habit of stealing money form my and my hubby' s purse. I have noticed it a lot of time. She will steal and will hide at some places which she is aware that I don' t touch much. Twice I have found the money in a bag of old clothese and in a junk box. I did' nt say anything and just picked money from there.My hubby is aware of the complete thing but didn' t say anything. Please advice what should I do sushma replied. MIL stealing money is wierd.. why dont you help her out by giving her some money every month.. for her own needs. she may/maynot need the money, but it would surely help to ease the situation. that way, none of you would be embarassed.. Saheli replied. As KUNJULAKSHMI has suggested, you may keep your money safe and locked, or if she just doesnt stop the habbit, attaching a note is also a good idea.

I was just thinking why your MIL has to do it? If she has enough money and earnings to fulfill her wishes and she still steals, thats not right.
May be its just her old habbit to steal things. If its not valid, its not acceptable.

But if she is stealing to get some stuff done for which she needs money and doesnt have money/earnings, for example, she wants to buy something for herself, or goes to market and buys stuff to eat that she likes but is ashamed of asking son and dil, or reasons like that, .... you know what i mean..... then may you need to do something in addition to taking action against stealing. Old age is second childhood, she might be insecure and having hidden desires (okay, i am just assuming all this sitting miles away, she may be Bechari one, or like soap-operas one-smart and cunning! i dont know). So if the case is valid, also try to find out ' why' and see if you can help her and eradicate the root cause.

But try to maintain her respect as much as possible and avoid saying it out to her. If she is aware that you are aware, she should restrict herself. KUNJULAKSHMI replied. Hi Pammy,
Keep the money in your purse or in your table or where ever no one else is the right to touch, attach one short note to your MIL advising her not to steal.

When she try to steal money, definitely she will see the note and at the same time keep quite as she don' t have the right to question about this note because it is kept purely in your personal bag or funiture.

MOTHERS THEMSELVES MUST BE SAMPLES FOR THEIR CHILDREN. I AM WONDERING WHY DON' T YOUR HUSBAND TURNED AS A THIEF OR ROBBER.