Hello all,
I was seven weeks along. But I miscarried. This was my first pregnancy after 11 months of trying. I had slight abdominal pain in my 5th week and called my doc. She told me that it is very common to have period like pain in the first few weeks. But she asked me to come for an U/s the same week. I went for an u/s. But they said they were unable to see the foetus. They also said that it was too early and asked us to wait for a week or so for another u/s. In the meantime they asked me to go for beta hcg every 48 hrs for 2 days, to see whether my hcg level increases. It did increase and I took an appointment for another u/s. To our astonishment, they were unable to see the foetus, even though I was in my 7th week. They said by this time there should be a foetus, but in my case they were able to see the sac and not the foetus. This is a case they termed as \";Blighted ovum\";, in which pregnancy has occured with a sac but no foetus. They say 20% of first pregnancy end up like this. The pregnancy will occur but the foetus will not grow after 5 weeks. This is mainly because of chromosomal abnormality.
They asked me to come for D&C. I went for D&C on sat. Everything is normal physically, but emotionally I am not fine. Whenever I think of that I am feeling very depressed. I also feel that everything is going to be fine, that God has something else in my reserve. Even though I think positive, I cannot overcome my grief. Exactly 3 weeks back I took a test and it came out positive in a jet speed. I thought all my waiting and anxiety has come to an end, after 11 month trying. But all of a sudden this happiness has been snatched away. I really don't know why this is happenning. God is the best judge of us all. Thanks for reading...... pari replied. hi!
i miscarried last year in oct. u can still read my story on this board.i had conceived even when we were not trying, but when i conceived, we happily excepted that. my u/s was scheduled for the 10th week but had to be done in 7th week coz of spotting.till that time i was hopeful that the spottin may be nothing to worry too much. but the doc said he couldnt see any fetal node. i didnt even know the meaning of fetal node. i just wanted to urinate coz my bladder was too full at that time. my u/s scan report said, 'possibility of blighted ovum'.
later my doc explained that it is just like a bad fruit that has fallen off a tree before getting ripe. even if it had got the chance to get ripe it still wont be normal. so its beter that it falls off without giving any more pain. i had my D&C two days later.
after that we didnt try for 1 year due to some financial and settlement probs. but wot a year i have had. those who didnt know bout my failed preg, keep asking \";ok now u must have a baby, now u have enjoyed enough\"; etc. only i know how much i have enjoyed!!! and sometimes those who know about it can be unkind enough to ask \";u trying for a second one?\";....i want to ask 'did i ever have a FIRST one?'
we started trying this oct only. today my menses are due. it is like the result of an exam...whether il get preg again...if i do, will i be able to deliver a healthy baby? my life is a total question mark...an endless wait.
but u know after each night, the sun has to rise...and that is as certain as the cycle of life and death...
wishing u luck with all my heart,
pari. rekha replied. hi guys
i am very new to this site and i read about few of ur stories about miscarriage as well as child loss.we do not know sometimes why god does that to us.there is no answer for many things in our lives.my story is that i lost my 6 month old son for biliary atresia which is the most rarest of disease and could be found one in 20,000 children.now do u have answer why god chose my child?.he was born in germany and he had kasai operation and later he needed liver transplant as well.but he wasnt fit to undergo the same.but he was the sweetest child and he always smiled.everyone around me remembers him for his smile.the same smile has kept me alive.i try to remember only his smile but not his sufferings.my husband is always by my side and very comforting.now god has given me another oppurtunity to become mother.I am 15 weeks pregnant five months after my son left me.god makes u cry but again he is the one who is gonna make u smile.so keep faith in god.god makes everything alright.
thanks for reading RSMurphy replied. Dear Wannabeparents,
Thank you for sharing your story. I, too, experienced something very similar. We were expecting our first child, after 6 months of trying. We were so excited and couldn't wait for the first ultrasound to learn the gender and prepare the room. We were both staring at the monitor, when the nurse said that she wasn't finding a heartbeat. I emotionally went from one extreme to the other, in a matter of seconds. We were heartbroken. I had a D&C 2 days later. That was 2 weeks ago and I am still recovering emotionally. I feel a great emptiness inside, and there is nothing in my culture that provides closure in a situation like this. I find comfort in success stories of other couples that conceive again, and I know that there was a reason that this baby did not survive. You story made me realize that I am not the only person that has experienced the pain of losing a child. \";Love begins before a baby is born and lives forever...I hope, in time, that love will find a way to heal your heart.\"; Monu replied. I also felt sad after reading what you have written. Don't worry and don't loose heart. I can understand what you are going through. My sister in law had 2 miscarriage and she was very very upset and went through lot of emotional turmoils. And now she is pregnant and is expecting sometime in Nov. this year and we are all praying for safe delivery.

Please try to be positive and look forward for trying again.

Good Luck !!! NR replied. Hi wannabeparents

I read all ur messages from ur happiest moment till now.
I use to read but havnt registered .
But after i saw ur sad story ..i planned to register to tell you one sad incident.

My husbands friend`s wife was pregnant for almost 7 months ... when they went to checkup during 7th month ..they doctor identified that the baby`s nervous system is not having proper growth like that. So Doctor adviced her to clear the baby soon . Infact they arranged for the 7th month function (which is done in India ..i dont know whther u know that ) and also invited everyone... the same date she delived a dead baby.
My husband didnt find any word to console his friend both of them crying .when i saw them i too cried .Think of that girl`s situation ..how much she would have worried ?

This situation is much worse than urs ( i dont say that urs is not a problem) ...but dont worry ...
Pray god .

Even i am trying for the past 6 months for baby ... Everymonth i will cry in front of god and i will forget ..God will surely hear your words.

Be Happy and try again ... In ur case ... i think u both are perfect ..u conceived once know ..that is enough to prove ... that u will get pregnant soon.

Have a good day