Hi
Need u'r help/suggestions. Suddenly from 3days, my breasts are no longer getting engorged, does this mean my milk has gone down. They remain soft most of the time. My son is 3months old now, haven;t yet started formula. Am so depressed about it and cannot just stop my tears. The guilt in me is building so badly, thinking that I cannot be a good mom. Donot know why this has happened to me all of a sudden, I had also got a pump thinking that I will express milk for my son while I join back work.
Please let me know if anyone of u have exp. the same and is it normal.
Please help me...
Madhu Tweetie replied. Some days could be a little on the down side than the other...drink lots of fluids, and as Komal said I too boil fenugreek and fennel (I add ajwain and cumin to reduce gas) in water and drink the water through the day...
Don't feel bad...you have given the best for your child and you can still continue well...positive mind set plays a very important role.

All the best

Tweetie komal replied. Hi Madhu,
Come on! First of all stop blaming yourself and feeling guilty and depressed . I went through exactly the same thing and that's what my doctor told me.
It is normal for milk supply to reduce in the third month- specially for some first time moms. And even if your breasts don't get engorged it doesn't mean the milk is not there . If you really feel that the supply is going down then have lots and lots of water,juice,milk, garlic and also fenugreek (u can get fenugreek tablets or as i had taken -boiled fenugreek in water and drank that all day).And make the baby suck as often as possible or maybe pump often.
My milk has reduced to about 4-5 oz a day and doc says main thing is don't keep the baby starving, give her formula which is almost as good.... and you have anyway given the best of milk in the first 3 months...so just relax.Infact getting depressed or worried will only reduce your milk supply.
Hope this makes sense.
love
komal