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2004-02-13

Name: Rashmi I just had a fetal demise at 14 weeks yesterday and scheduled for a d & e on tuesday. Its a trauma keeping a dead baby in you and knowing I can't revive it.

I do have a daughter 4 years old back in India and this was my second pregnancy (actually 3rd) since I had to have an abortion 10 months after my daughter for medical reasons. I came here in the US to be with my husband at 8 weeks and all was fine when suddenly this happened. We had even started telling people at 13 weeks.

I wonder how does one cope with it initially. I have read the posts here and my heart reaches out to all who have lost babies. Right now I need to be with my daughter so badly but just can't think of leaving my husband to cope with this alone. I can't get my daughter here now as she was not granted a tourist visa and its another 4 years for our family green card to come through.

I would love suggestions from other's who have gone through and dealt with this situation.

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2005-07-11

Name: tag
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good luck

Hi Rashmi

I felt very sorry for this mishappening in your life but I am glad that at least you have a 4 year old baby to take care of. People in the world are in great pain who are not even blessed by one child. Take care and a very good luck to you. god will listen 2 u soon.

tag

2004-02-25

Name: Cha
Subject:

My prayers

Hi Rashmi,

I feel much empathy for you during this trying time. Rashmi, my prayers are with you.

Soon, you will be with your daughter and a new baby...

Take care..

Luv,

Cha

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