Dear All,

First of all congrtas on your pregnancy. Though it's not pg related but still I am postimg my message to get advice from u all.

I am in very confused situation. I am married over 2 months but still I am a virgin. We donot have sex yet. I don't know my husband's problem. He hardly tried 5-6 times in 2.5 months. Firstly, I thought he is giving me time but now a days it's creating tension in my mind. He simply kissed me sometimes. Once he was trying but after sometime he said..I am tired. I don't understand that. Being an indian girl I am not that open. I don't know wt to do. With whom to talk. He otherwise is very nice. My MIL want kids soon. Should I discuss this pbm with someone else like my parents. I am living too far from my parents. I cannot discuss these things with them. Also, I don't want to give any tension to them in this age. Please let me know what I can i do to solve this pbm at my end. Please advice. I don't want to wait more.

thanx
take care
ekta
san replied. hi ekta,
It really is a concerning issue. I feel that you should talk it out with your husband first. Listen very carefully to what he has to say to this. Sometimes it may happen that the boy is hesitant in going ahead with sex. Try to be alone with him on a holiday even for a day or two. See if you both get attracted towards each other or not. Dont let him get away taking it lightly.

If soon nothing happens then you have to discuss it out with your in-laws and parents. See if there is anything wrong with him physically or he has other preferences. you are the best judge in this situation, you have to decide. Don't let this linger on for long time. sort it out soon. best thing would be that you both talk it out first, show him your anxiety and concern.

All the best and I pray that everything is well with you. Archana replied.
Dear Ekta,

First of all let me remind you as u said its only 2 months since u r married and I personally think its too early to start worrying like this.

Ekta please remember marriage is just a ceremony to bind two people so unless u knew each other before u do need time to understand each other. Being an Indian girl doesnt mean you shouldnt talk to your partner about what you feel but I guess what you need here is to build up a trust and confidence to talk freely to ur partner before worrying about your inlaws need to see a baby in the family.

Sometimes it may be true that ur husband is too tired after his busy work schedule or it may be he too is worried about what u r feeling so what I can suggest is choose a romantic vacation spot and take a break from work and go spend some time together. Try to build up your relationship on a concrete base of trust and love.

Once you can open up with each other u may be able to discuss and find a solution together. I hope it will work.

Good luck