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2006-08-25
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My In-laws are settled in Bangkok and they all live in Joint Family, My husband is youngest of 3 brothers so his parents are very much attached to him, and after seeing his 2 elder sis-in-laws he never wanted to marry a Indian Girl, but his parents forced to marry me. i as a new bride went there with dreams in my eyes and expectations to get love and support from my in-laws, but my mother in law starting taking out all her frustuations on me, i was never allowed to touch any food coz then i am over eating and this food is brought by my father in law and not my husband and my husband says that they are absolutely RIGHT, he buy extra milk and juices for me, my husband never supported as he was afraid of hurting his parents and is brain washed by his parents that if he will give support or love to me than i can also become \";INDEPENDENT\"; like his 2 other daugter-in-laws, whenever me and my Husband wants some privacy and wants to go out together his parents also joined us, they insulted me everyday to dominate me. if i feel low or my face shows depression than they insult me that they hate those people who are always sitting with stupid faces, i cried everyday..every moment, i don't want to loose my husband as he is very nice person, i want to save my marriage, i have reached to conclusion that i will never ask anything from them, if he wants to spend time with his parents and not me i will never ask for it, if his parents or family will ignore me and insult me i will keep quiet because my speeking hurts my husband and his make his parents complain about me..
AM i on right track, what shall i do?


for whatever good i have done with my motherinlaw is always forgets it and always praise my jethani for small small things which don't have a meaning too..i don't know what she gets by hurting me, i stopped going to her and stops doing things and this way my jethani is getting a way to impress my mother in law..if i try to impress her, then she ignores..what shall i do?
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2006-08-25
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Anonymous Name: di bh
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First of all your husband is very lucky to have a wife like u .only he doesnt realise it. Whatever u do if u keep quiet thinking it will make your husband sad il's will never stop harassing u.u might as well take control why dont u try for a job see then u will spend around 10 hrs outside the house and 8 hrs in sleep and its 4-5 more hrs.once your il's will not have ur pampering then they will surely know ur value and what u were doing also u will get a change of atmosphere and become little cheerful.maybe u can give this a thought.
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