Pls help me with my problem.

My daughter 18 months old, not started talking yet. But I see lot of posts saying that its not to be worried about. Few meaningful words come out of her mouth, but not when required.

With respect to the other aspects, she looks to be intelligent in some ways, but not too good in some ways.
She can do some things like shake hands, points to her bangles and anklets, hugging/kissing when we ask for, understand simple commands, points to some common things when asked for, imitates people at home (like praying, any different foot work, some rhymes actions like turning around, tapping the feet etc). But she really gets me worried in some aspects - she doesn' t point to everything that i teach her - she just chooses to ignore some of them totally like she would not point to some of her body parts like eyes, nose etc. she would not salute to say good morning how much ever i try to make her do it. maybe she is too tired early in the morning to listen to what i say. she wont say \" bye bye\" - again it could be that she is sad i leave to work when i try to make her say bye. she is scared of some adults, but she is friendly with most children and a few stranger adults too. i am worried especially about not pointing to the body parts - i read somewhere that its a very important milestone. but what to do with a kid who will point to her bangles, but not her hand when asked for?

Worried is not the word - i am in a stage where i will cry anytime at work and on the road. pls give some words of comfort or let me know if i should be worried about something. vv replied. I had posted another concern about 20 days back that my daughter 19 months old is not responding too well to what we teach. Now that is improved after we stopped her continous CD watching and had more interactions. She obeys simple commands and she has improved quite a bit. But she still hasn' t started talking well, though she tries to repeat what is told, words aren' t falling in place.

I took her to her paed yesterday, and asked her if ENT checkup is required. Paed did some basic checks like asking her to show her head and she showed. but when she called her name from a distance, my daughter just didn' t respond. that could possibly be coz she was engrossed playing with another kid in the clinic. but i was still concerned coz not always she shows her responses. I took her to the ENT and i was asked to put oil in her ears as frequently as possible to remove the wax that comes out. after that he said he will assess her again. now should i be concerned? i am planning to put her in a day care from the coming monday. Should i proceed with further ENT tests or shall i wait to see if she has any development after going to the day care? pls help.

Looks like kids get the moms worried almost every day... chetana replied. Dear W
U are needlessly feeling so worried. Reading what u have written, i see not a single issue with ur daughter.
Be a little patient. U have a daughter who is barely 18 months old. Please do not judge her intelligence as if she is 18 YRS old. Every child is different and its not necessary that he/she crosses a certain milestone at the same age as the other kids do. Your daughters accomplishments(shaking hands,hugging etc) are really good for her age. She is doing exceptionally well. Hence you need not feel worried. Also dear, remember you have a toddler..at this age kids get aware of their own individuality.Till now they take themselves to be an extension of their mothers.Enter toddler hood and Self awareness starts now. Hence they try to assert themselves. About wishing good morning , well i can say this that if adults can be moody you are here talking abut a little child. Stranger anxiety is also normal. Most kids have it and its a phase they grow out of it. Donot try to force her to go to ppl she doesnt want to be with. She would come arund on her own. As far as not pointing to her body parts is concerned, let me tell u abut my son. I have a 15 months old kid and when he was say arund an yr old he was perfectly telling us where our eyes, ears, tongue, teeth, lips, are. These days he points out every thing wrong. The ears are eyes and nose is what ever he wants at the moment. Hence you can see that its not that he doesnt know, he simply doesn' t want to tell. i never egg him on when he is not in the mood to point. Your daughter understands everything, its just that she does' nt want to show it. About pointing to her bangles and not her hand, well she must be fascinated with her bangles hence points at them easily. Just that.
Take it easy G, i guess you are working, your recent shift of residence and hence a little neglect of ur daughter on your part ....all is making you think overtime.
Relax, she is a kid and perfectly intelligent for her age.
take care
chetana vv replied. i forgot to add something.
we moved to a new home about 2 months back and i should say, with all the work i had during that time, i ignored her a little bit and did not concentrate on what she can do and she cannot. in the meantime, she also got addicted to watching rhymes cds all the time - she used to love it, but we stopped it sometime back in order to see if this is causing the problems.