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2011-03-02

Name: chanda srinivas I was expecting my 2nd child after a long gap of 6 yrs. It was such a pleasant surprise for both of us and i always had a feeling that god would bless us with a daughter which we always had hope for. I had a healthy 6 months of pregnancy, unfortunately in the 7th month there was leakage of fluid and i delivered a baby girl through c section on the 30th of nov 2010. She was in the NICU for 41 days, she really fought bravely several infections and an intestinal surgery also but succumbed to an intestinal infection. we are devastated by this loss. I am totally shattered and i cant forget this trauma. I am constantly asking myself why this has happened to me. I havent been able to join back work and am trying to keep up a brave face for my son and husband. I also havent had the courage to tell my son, who is the sweetest and the bright spot in my life. somehow there is this empty feeling in my heart and I desperately need to recover. I am already 38 and may be difficult to think of another one. If anyone knows about any counselling center or someone who I could just share, in Hyderabad, please let me know.

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I was expecting my 2nd child after a long gap of 6 yrs. It was such a pleasant surprise for both of us and i always had a feeling that god would bless us with a daughter which we always had hope for. I had a healthy 6 months of pregnancy, unfortunately in the 7th month there was leakage of fluid and i delivered a baby girl through c section on the 30th of nov 2010. She was in the NICU for 41 days, she really fought bravely several infections and an intestinal surgery also but succumbed to an intestinal infection. we are devastated by this loss. I am totally shattered and i cant forget this trauma. I am constantly asking myself why this has happened to me. I havent been able to join back work and am trying to keep up a brave face for my son and husband. I also havent had the courage to tell my son, who is the sweetest and the bright spot in my life. somehow there is this empty feeling in my heart and I desperately need to recover. I am already 38 and may be difficult to think of another one. If anyone knows about any counselling center or someone who I could just share, in Hyderabad, please let me know.
Aris replied. I can feel your pain. I had a late miscarriage at 18.5 weeks in May 2009. The 12 week scan showed that there is a 1/100 risk of the baby having down' s syndrome. We were advised to get a CVS done and that it had a small risk of miscarriage. I had the CVS and got the results in 2 weeks indicating that the baby does not have down' s syndrome. We were very happy. One week later I started bleeding heavily and had to go into emergencies. I had another scan the next day and the baby was alright, but the scan said that the placenta was haemorrhaged. I was advised bedrest. Even after bedrest, the next scan in 6 days showed that the baby was no longer moving. I had to be induced into labor - we never had a chance to see our baby alive. It is the most painful thing I have ever encountered in life. We are making sure we never conceive again to take this risk ever again. nupur replied. Hi chanda I feel very sorry for you,It is really a very bad news.I think that child was not in your luck.You have to be strong for your child and husband also.
Babita Rawat replied. hi chanda, so sad to hear your loss of 6 month baby girl. I also lost my pregnancy in feb 2011. I not able to recover from this sadness but trying to be happy. you too cheer up and don' t lose hope. all the best. May God gift you a beautiful baby girl chanda replied. Hi all, I essentially joined this forum hoping that i get some words of support from the members. But i am still waiting....

2011-03-27

Name: Aris
Subject:

Hi Chanda

I can feel your pain. I had a late miscarriage at 18.5 weeks in May 2009. The 12 week scan showed that there is a 1/100 risk of the baby having down' s syndrome. We were advised to get a CVS done and that it had a small risk of miscarriage. I had the CVS and got the results in 2 weeks indicating that the baby does not have down' s syndrome. We were very happy. One week later I started bleeding heavily and had to go into emergencies. I had another scan the next day and the baby was alright, but the scan said that the placenta was haemorrhaged. I was advised bedrest. Even after bedrest, the next scan in 6 days showed that the baby was no longer moving. I had to be induced into labor - we never had a chance to see our baby alive. It is the most painful thing I have ever encountered in life. We are making sure we never conceive again to take this risk ever again.

2011-04-01

Name: chanda
Subject:

loss in life

hi aris, the pain that we are going through and which will haunt us for the rest of our lives is deep. not one day passes without me remembering my lil one. the physical trauma is forgotten sooner or later but what abt the mental? it will take lot of time.and dont give up, if god so wishes, you will be blessed again. leave everything to god, atleast i am doing that as there is nothing in our hands.

2011-03-25

Name: nupur
Subject:

Advise

Hi chanda I feel very sorry for you,It is really a very bad news.I think that child was not in your luck.You have to be strong for your child and husband also.

2011-04-01

Name: chanda
Subject:

loss in life

ya nupur, i am trying my best to be strong for my son and husband, but its very very tough, believe me. i ahve left everything to destiny and god, where he steers my life, i will go that way.

2011-03-23

Name: Babita Rawat
Subject:

loss in life

hi chanda, so sad to hear your loss of 6 month baby girl. I also lost my pregnancy in feb 2011. I not able to recover from this sadness but trying to be happy. you too cheer up and don' t lose hope. all the best. May God gift you a beautiful baby girl

2011-04-01

Name: chanda
Subject:

loss in life

hi babita, thank u for ur best wishes. i am so sorry abt your loss, this is something which leaves a deep pain forever in ones heart, how much ever i try to forget in some way or the other the memories come back, our initial happiness, then the trauma. i just managed to tell my son abt this loss and he did look upset, but for 2 days after that he was trying to cheer me up in his own ways, how i thank god for this blessing in life. we have to find solace and strength by sharing our lifes experiences with each other in this forum. i will pray for you to have much more happiness in future.

2011-03-04

Name: chanda
Subject:

waiting

Hi all, I essentially joined this forum hoping that i get some words of support from the members. But i am still waiting....

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