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Miscarriage and Child Loss:Elective Termination and Grief
2008-06-23
Name: Geeta



I had elective 7 week pregnancy termination a week ago and I am totally a mess. Please don' t comment on pro life issues and it is not the time or comment I am looking for.
I am really hurting about my choice that I made due to my reasons and that I regret and am very very depressed and lonely.I am a married women.
Anyone who has gone through this please share your experience and also did you ever had a luck with carrying baby to full term after abortion and if yes how long after you had the procedure.
Any kind words or experience will be greatly appreciated
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2008-07-07
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Anonymous Name: Geeta
Subject:  Thank you!!



Thank you guys for your kind words. That really made me feel better. Choices that you make are what you have to live with i Guess.
Sameera I am hoping to make my peace with what happened sometime soon and I am praying for all the strength.
What if' s and why is what had been so hurtful.
Geeta
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2008-07-06
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Anonymous Name: Sameera
Subject:  Elective Termination and Grief



Hi Geeta
Must feel terrible. But it' s ok, let your grief out and move forward. Have you got help, have you seen a grief counsellor? If no, please do so. They can really help you come to terms with this and the reasons for it.
Also, yes, you can get pregnant, carry a baby to term and deliver. You will, i' m sure get a good gynecologist. This has happened to me. I had to terminate becaise there were some issues I' d rather not discuss here. I have regrets and have wept buckets but then I met a counsellor and made my peace with myself. That was not meant to sound selfish but I think you know what I mean.... I just had to. I had to move away from the trauma. That was a long time back [2 years] but now I have a lovely baby. Chin up girl, it will happen. I think you have a lot of love in you to give. Big hug from me!
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2008-07-02
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Anonymous Name: anonymous
Subject:  hi geeta



Hi Geeta,

Even I had to opt for an abortion due to the circumstances and I know how you feel.But 3 years later i was carrying again and now I have a beautifull baby girl who takes my breath away. So, just take care of the present circumstances and don' t worry about conceiving.
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2008-06-30
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Anonymous Name: anonymous
Subject:  hi geeta



well u had to choose to terminate and i had to termonate becos of sm complication in foetus ,so pain is the same i know u must b feeling guilty n but wot u did in those circumstances was destined so now just move forward ,dont regret u will see gud times sooner than u expect....
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