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Just an update - last weekend we went on a trip - a total of 7 hrs drive back and forth.
So, Thurs my SIL called on hubby's cell when we were returning from work. She had to ask where and when we r going etc. Fri. we were leaving and she called my cell right b4 I was leaving work - I ignored the call and deleted it off my cell. Many times she calls home and leaves a msg saying she tried my cell and I didnt pickup. I am not a cell person too much and dont like talking on the phone either and my hubby knows that. Anyways she didnt leave a msg. I asked my hubby if his parents called? I know they call daily at his work and I have started to ask nowadays. So he said they called and were busy and that he had told them that we were going away for the weekend. BTW, he had made the call using his cell. I check his cell but I never tell him and we dont get the cell bill at home- its online only. FIL called Sat. afternoon and left a msg. on the cell. My hubby accidentally disconnected the call (we were in car with freinds so maybe thats why). Sat. nite SIL called to ask abt the trip when we were returning from the trip(again in car with freinds). Sun. afternoon MIL called and he talked for 2 min. and I grabbed the phone from him to talk to her(we were in car with freinds once again and as I said I talk to inlaws on Sat.). My hubby was hanging up but I still talked. 5 hrs later rite b4 going to bed, my FIL called and my hubby didnt pickup. I heard the phone vibrate and later checked to c if it was my FIL's missed call. And, yes it was. And, finally Sun. nite SIL called cell (we were home from the trip)and then left a msg at home since we were outside in the garden. He didnt call back last nite atleast.
Supposedly, she's busy with 2 kids (boys aged 3 and 5) and doesnt even work. They goto a pre nursery 8-1.30pm daily so she gets time to cook or run errands and ofcourse talk. SIL even talks to my MIL/FIL/my hubby during this time. Each time she forgets or misses something, excuse is 'shes got 2 kids and doesnt have time'. I dont know if these people realise how annoying it can get.
When SIL called Sat. nite on our drive back home (we were in the car with freinds) I told my hubby to tell her that we r going to another city and staying over and we drive home Sun. My hubby got mad abt my comments in the car. Hes like shes not interfering but inquisitive. He gets so defensive abt his family. His freinds parents/siblings never called when we were on the trip. But he never seems to notice that. We almost had a fight and when we woke up in the morn., he wanted to know why I behave in a certain way when his family calls. I told him sorry and apologised. I had done this b4 as well when we were on a vacation last month. His parents called everyday we were on vacation. And, my mood changes these days when they call and my hubby notices it. He asks me but doesnt get it. I dont know how else to tell him.We have been married over a year and I thot he will change. Last year, they would even call early morn to wake us up. They r 7 hrs ahead of our time so they would call at 4am if we had a 7am flight and then at the airport again. Leave us alone - your 30 yr old son is married. Thankfully we dont live in the same time zone. SIL does live almost in the same time zone so she follows up if the parents dont. She has noone to annoy her - no SIL/MIL and her FIL and hubby's brother is very laidback and FIL lives in India.
Cant beleive it - it seems like I live with a Joint family?? Talking to him doesnt work - he gets mad and picks a fight. But, i got to let him know somehow that I dont like interference and he's a married man and needs to let go of his family atleast a little bit. My SIL has been married for 10 years and she hasnt been able to let go it seems and it scares me. Unless I tell him how I feel, he would never realise it. Its normal for him and to him its all abt caring and sharing. Will it ever end? Any suggestions?? kulwinder replied. Swati, i am agree with that desigirl's reply. near about same situation is here. No need to show your anger to your husband. There is no end of such things. Try to avoid such situations and show to your husband that you are least bother to see and listen all these. U have no problem what your husband and his parents are doing. Try to feel satisfaction in yourself. HUSBAND ARE NEVER MADE FOR WIVES BELIVE ME. We can do what now is not to make our children like this. we should give them space to live. i know Firstly U will try to avoid my first suggestion but with 2-3 years you will definately use it.
SAYING USELESS- BUT TRY TO BE HAPPY. desigirl replied. Hey sorry to hear that you are going thru this. Me tooo,,,, but i can't do anything. after a while you might let go things, as i do rightnow. cause according to my husband they are never wrong. and he will definetly choose them over me. now i figure what's the point in fighting. so i just dont' say anything. you have to start letting go, otherewise you will feel apart from your husband. think about it