Hi,
My name is rama and I live in Bangalore. I would like to know if there is a support group/club for couples who do not have any issues and are undergoing the trauma of miscarriage, not knowing the cause of it. I would like to meet women who are undergoing such trauma like me for mutual help and support. priya replied. Hi i had two miscarriage , but i got the reason for this ,poly cystic ovary K.Radha replied. Hi Rama,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I won' t try to put a positive spin on things but keep hopeful that many good things will come your way. I personally think the idea of a support group is an exceptionally good idea. The thing with one on one support is that it can be some what loss focused and will centre on many of the more heartbreaking emotions rather than being about coping and finding ways to live with the loss. Having said that I will add that grief is very important and going through it is a very natural, normal and positive way of dealing with things. Many nights I cried myself to sleep so please don' t think I am advocating thoughts of \" lets all move on\" ... But getting back to support groups.

Forums are a very good way of finding group support, this particular forum is excellent. Obviously everyone here has been through a loss like yourself, at different stages of pregnancy and now we are all at differing places in our journey back to happiness so the advice here is really quite fantastic. A few women have struck up personal friendships with other members outside of the forum also. Have you considered contacting local maternity hospitals or pregnancy clinics to see if they know of any local organizations? If perhaps there is nothing local have you thought of starting a support group yourself?

There are a lot of organisations that will be able to help out with advise on how you could do this if you felt able to do so. To be honest there are no hard and fast rules about how to do things, all you need are some like minded people and somewhere to hold the meetings. My local support group hosts monthly meetings and everyone takes turns holding it at their home and those who attend bring a plate of food and its a very comfortable and relaxed atmosphere. We share our stories, discuss recent studies or developments relating to miscarriage and child loss, talk about our husbands and other children... But there is that link that is shared by all that makes even new members feel like old friends. It certainly is worth giving some thought to starting a group because if you feel a need there must be many more women who are in a similar position. I hope I have been of some help and who knows, next time someone from B' lore asks after a support group we might just point them in your direction :D

Keep Smiling mandeep replied. sorry for your loss love. As i have also gone through n lost my twins so i know what the feeling are.Things will be fine soon, trust me. rekha replied. Hi Rama,

I' m sorry to hear about your loss. I know how u r feeling now + wht you r going thru.I went thru' the same in november and am still to come to terms with the fact. I' ve not been an acive member on this board but i used to feel a lot better reading previous replies n posts from active members....( while they themselves were going thru' a similar phase and at a later stage helping out others ). There are a lot of ladies who have had to go thru' what you and I are facing now.

I, personally, find Kate n sudha' s replies to be very helpful though i have not interacted much with these wonderful ladies but you can see what i mean from their previous posts.

You need to support your DH and vice versa---talk to each other , try and find what could be the cause for the loss. These are real difficult / testing days...pls try to be strong. I' m sure things will be better and we' ll definitely be rewarded..I' m sure life will be wonderful again..soon.

I' m not good at consoling( or words) but i do hope you' ll feel better very soon...Do take good care of yourself.

Love,Rekha