hi all, i am 12 weeks pregnant and this is the first child. I live in France. Been married 4 yrs with lots of ups and downs. My IL' s live here and I do not get along with them. MIL is very cold and controlling, husband is only child, etc. Husband also does not like my family.
For my delivery I want to go to Dubai as my parents live there. I am not very happy with medical services here and I would be more comfortable with my parents.
My mother can come here for 1 month or so, but husband does not like her and I feel very tense about that. I feel I will be concentrating more on them than the baby.
I want to to Dubai and husband is very unhappy, so much so that he said he will leave me if I go there for delivery.
I feel very bad as this is the time I need his support the most.
What should I do ? sowmya replied. i feel i am also sailing in the same boat as u...but one word of advice is that never give up...stand up for wat u want...dont keep obeying ur husband and inlaws...its ur life and u hav the freedom t do wat u wish
best of luck.......... a friend replied. I do think you need to stand up for yourself and not just hope that things will get better on their on, because they rarely do.
1. your husband needs to support you.
2. you are right in saying that you' ll be worried more about the in-laws tension, then your pregnancy and you can' t do that.
3. in order to make sure you don' t do anything that will create tension between you and your husband, i will do everything in open.
4. call your parents in dubai, when your in-laws and your husband are home. put them on speaker. bring up the issue, of where the delivery will take place? say that you need them to decide what and when. As for you, it will be best for you to be at your mother' s place. Then let them do the talking, if they are quiet then say, the time is running out and if we need to make travel arrangements, we need to get going on it.
5. just be frank about it. also, tell your husban that just like he doesn' t like your parents, you don' t like his. and for you to have that emotional stress could present to be harmful for the baby and you just want the delivery to go smoothly without any complication. also tell him that you care and love him and want to start your family off with happy thought, not with tension. just get him to understand your side of things. ask him to imagine having to live with your parents and be pregnant.

wish you all the best. god is watching and hopfully eveyrthing will sort itself out. do take care of yourself. let every other matter slide. doesn' t matter what your husband or in-laws think or want. just live in your own bubble
priya replied. hey this is the time for you to be happy after ur baby comes ur husband will not react this bad he will start loving ur child and u of course....pray god he will do all success... SV replied. hello

Firstly is your husband religious and god fearing ? If so, then even if u go to dubai, he cannot leave you at any cost. And you need this break from him and his family to make them realise they miss you. So for delivery make sure you are in dubai. If you keep falling on his feet, he' ll make you bend more. He has to respect your parents and your paternal family. If he does' nt tell him, he does' nt have to leave you, you' ll leave him. He' ll defnitely budge after some days, he starts missing you. Do it and teach such male chauvanists a lesson of their life.

Sorry for giving you wrong (teda) route to solve your problem, but it works best. believe me. All the best. All will be fine. Be strong and concentrate on your baby.