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My name is Parimala and from a Telugu speaking middle class orthodox family in Hyderabad. I am 23, have passed B.Sc. and working in an auto show room as a receptionist for the past two years. My parents have identified an engineer groom for me who is also from a similar orthodox middle class family and working in a reputed private firm. He is 26, very good looking, very well mannered. His parents are also down to earth and well mannered. The horoscope matches very well. They do not want any dowry and a simple marriage is acceptable. This is the sixth groom my parents have tried for me and they do not want to miss this family.

But the catch is this. The boy’s family had some severe problems about ten years ago. After being advised by their astrologer that the family will be better off with annual family tonsure at Tirupati and short hair, the family goes to Tirupati every June and all get tonsured. The females get their hair trimmed to nice boy cuts once in two months between tonsures. The boy’s two elder sisters began growing long hair only after they got married, one six years ago and the other four years ago. The remaining five continue the annual June family tonsure even today. The older sister’s in-laws allowed her to tonsure after her two children were born and she happily returned to biennial tonsure two years ago and boy cut in between.

We were aghast when the groom’s party came to meet us. The 78 year old granny, the boy’s 51 year old mom and the older sister were having neat barbershop boy cuts. They told all this and said that they expected the daughter in law to accept this practice whole-heartedly since short hair and annual tonsure have done good for the family. I am having a beautiful waist long braid. The family and the boy are very good but this requirement is unnerving me. My parents are pressing me to accept it happily since many middle class ladies are keeping short hair nowadays and there is nothing to be shy about it. Many ladies do get tonsured also on one pretext or the other. The older sister of the groom told me that it is a nice experience to have a tonsure and also a clipper cut in a barber shop and I should not miss it. And that is why she has returned to it even in her in-laws’ place. The show room boss does not mind my having a bald head or boy cut. Some of my friends and colleagues are pressing to accept while a few are pressurising to reject. I am at a loss. The groom’s parents have given time till 1st Jan to tell one way or the other.

If I accept, the marriage will be in March and within a week after that I and the groom will be Tirupati baldies and only after that we will have our first night. Again in June along with the family I will have to tonsure and after that a regular barber shop boy cut will be there. It will be good bye to long hair forever.

My question is: are tonsure and boy cuts really enjoyable as the groom's sister is making out? Is it worth to forego long hair for a marriage? What shall I do? No Name replied. Hello Parimala,
So you were tensed that you need to go for tonsure for every year.It is so hard for girls to make tonsure that to every year.you need to explain the problem to them before marriage and try to solve it then only go for next step. Parimala replied. Hi all,
Since I would be cutting my hair regularly in barbershop, mom suggested that the second cut should be in a temple and preferably again a gundu. Since I have to have a boy cut for marriage, I cannot wait till June/July for next temple gundu. So on 25th we all went to Yadadri and my dense 5 mm growth was shaved off again at the temple. I liked the experience again. If I so much happy about being a gundu lady, brother suggested that I could get a clipper gundu at barbershop after s small growth as an inaugural barbershop haircut. So today morning I went to the barbershop with my brother. The barber made my head bald again with zero grade electric clippers removing the 5 mm growth. The cut was so enjoyable that I thanked my brother and parents for this barbershop cut. The sand papery feel of my bald head is so good that my hand automatically goes to my head to caress it. Even my fiancé and future in-laws are happy that I love the machine cut. Lekha replied. Nice to her do ur finance saw u in bald or not what is him reaction Parimala replied. Hi all,
On 16th afternoon we - my parents, brother and myself - were in K'katta of Tirumala. My waist long braid was unbraided by my mother for the last time, was wetted thoroughly and bunched into two parts. I had by now lost all inhibitions of going bald having been egged on by mom, dad and supportive friends. In fact I was eagerly anticipating a happy, holy and razory good bye to my waist long hair. I sat down in front of the male barber anticipating the first cut as he thoroughly massaged my hairy scalp. He bent forward my head and scraped the hair on my crown. Here it goes I thought. Oh! the feel of scraping off my hair, the bunches falling off, cool breeze on my bare head - everything was thoroughly enjoyable. In four minutes I was fully and nicely bald! My parents hugged me and stroked my bare and smooth head. I was feeling elated and joyful - both looking at a bald me in the mirror and running my hand on my smooth and nice pate. In fact I thought I looked very attractive being bald.
I refrained from covering my head since anyway this would be an annual affair. Some neighbours suggested that I cover my head but I smiled their suggestions away. In office on Monday, I sat with a smile and a bald head to welcome my astonished customers. Most smiled or laughed but a few made a wry or serious face. I ignored such negative reactions.
By today, I am enjoying my bald status thoroughly. No combing, very nice to shower and an extremely nice sand papery feel.
I am very glad I did it. I thank my stars putting me to this situation and parents for supporting me in this new avatar of mine. Alex replied. Hi pari u said ur next update 17 or 18 but u not update anything plz update us waiting Vishagan replied. Hi paraimalla do u completed ur tpt bald plz share ur experience Pavi replied. Hi pari do u completed ur mottai or not please share it experience with us Janani replied. Hi pari do u complete ur mottai and share ur experience with us Lekha replied. Hi pari what about ur trip do u complete ur mottai plz update Alex replied. Do u completed u mottai Janani replied. I need to clear one thing I don't know u said me or other but I had a dream like I am in mottai that was the very worst dream for me so that I ask them their experience my intention is not to hurt them apoorva replied. i guess you only know how to make fun of people who are posting their problems here. I think you would also soon face such problems and will have to bear the brunt.. that time i will ask you to upload a pic of yours and will ask 100s of people to like it Janani replied. Hi u going to bald this week how is mind know about tpt bald pooja replied. dont go for this if you do not feel so. this is a matter of lifetime and i dont think you must compromise on it just under parental pressure. think twice and then take a decision that would make you happy. Lekha replied. Hi paraimalla congrats for ur headshave Parimala replied. Dear Lekha and others
I know that all of you are eager to hear of my tonsure next week. But what to do? 16th Jan is still 9 days away.
My engagement was over on 1st Jan - a simple family affair. I got my right nostril pierced on 28th Dec to wear a nose stud. My colleagues are already calling me 'GP' (meaning Gundu Parimala). I do not mind.
My next update will be on 17th or 18th. lekha replied. hi plz update anything alex replied. hi PARI WHEATHER UR ENCOUGEMENT COMPLETED OR NOT lekha replied. hi parimala please update anything y u stop updating what about ur encougement vinth replied. congrats for ur encougement and do u said tpt bald on 16 jan to ur fiance