Beauty & Grooming  Discussion Forum

My name is Parimala and from a Telugu speaking middle class orthodox family in Hyderabad. I am 23, have passed B.Sc. and working in an auto show room as a receptionist for the past two years. My parents have identified an engineer groom for me who is also from a similar orthodox middle class family and working in a reputed private firm. He is 26, very good looking, very well mannered. His parents are also down to earth and well mannered. The horoscope matches very well. They do not want any dowry and a simple marriage is acceptable. This is the sixth groom my parents have tried for me and they do not want to miss this family.

But the catch is this. The boy’s family had some severe problems about ten years ago. After being advised by their astrologer that the family will be better off with annual family tonsure at Tirupati and short hair, the family goes to Tirupati every June and all get tonsured. The females get their hair trimmed to nice boy cuts once in two months between tonsures. The boy’s two elder sisters began growing long hair only after they got married, one six years ago and the other four years ago. The remaining five continue the annual June family tonsure even today. The older sister’s in-laws allowed her to tonsure after her two children were born and she happily returned to biennial tonsure two years ago and boy cut in between.

We were aghast when the groom’s party came to meet us. The 78 year old granny, the boy’s 51 year old mom and the older sister were having neat barbershop boy cuts. They told all this and said that they expected the daughter in law to accept this practice whole-heartedly since short hair and annual tonsure have done good for the family. I am having a beautiful waist long braid. The family and the boy are very good but this requirement is unnerving me. My parents are pressing me to accept it happily since many middle class ladies are keeping short hair nowadays and there is nothing to be shy about it. Many ladies do get tonsured also on one pretext or the other. The older sister of the groom told me that it is a nice experience to have a tonsure and also a clipper cut in a barber shop and I should not miss it. And that is why she has returned to it even in her in-laws’ place. The show room boss does not mind my having a bald head or boy cut. Some of my friends and colleagues are pressing to accept while a few are pressurising to reject. I am at a loss. The groom’s parents have given time till 1st Jan to tell one way or the other.

If I accept, the marriage will be in March and within a week after that I and the groom will be Tirupati baldies and only after that we will have our first night. Again in June along with the family I will have to tonsure and after that a regular barber shop boy cut will be there. It will be good bye to long hair forever.

My question is: are tonsure and boy cuts really enjoyable as the groom's sister is making out? Is it worth to forego long hair for a marriage? What shall I do? Pearl replied. Hi Pari,
How is your married life.How did you felt when you sat in front of barber for hair cut and you are lucky to have an husband who would respect your thoughts and views.And as per knowledge he would give moral support also. Tripthi replied. Hi Parimala,
So whole heartdely you have done hair cut and you did not got tensed while they are doing and for many months you are going for next cut.So are you continuing with the same hair style.Can you share it. Barbie replied. Hello Parimala,
Congrats you got married.So how is your married life.Then what about your experience regarding head shave or tonsure and even your hair cut.So you are looking very new in this hair style also. Amit replied. Hi Pari,
So finally you got married congrats.So how was your first experience after doing hair cut.Can you share your experiences with us if it possible. I would expect an comment from you. Nidhi replied. Hi Parimala,
So finally you took decision and you got married.Congrats for you. So you went for cut for first time. What it is your experience for the first time.So ca you share your experience with us.If it is possible. No Name replied. Hi parimala,
Congrats you have got married.So you have done with hair cut or tonsure what ever it is.Then how is your first experience regarding it.Did you cried or felt some tensed what did you felt at that moment.Can you share.
No Name replied. Hi Parimala,
SO you have done marriage that was so sweet of you.And you have accepted their rituals also.So how is your first experience regarding mottai did you got tensed and what did you feel when it is being done for you. Not real replied. Hi Pari,
You got married it was so happy for you and even you went for hair cut also.You have followed the rituals of your in laws also.I wish you would be happy always and god must give you every thing what ever you need in your life. Amit replied. Hi Pari,
Congrats that you got married.How is your married life can you share if it possible.Any how you was happy with tonsure initially you were tensed but later you have become bold and strong with the support of your family. Kavi replied. Hi Pari,
It is good to know you got married and even accepted their rituals also.So you are happy with the tonsure.And you were happy with your married life also.So even your in laws also cares for you.You need to maintain the same with in laws. Pari replied. Hello Parimala,
So what would be the decision you have taken could you post regarding that because they have shared the reason so genuinely with you.Then what would be the step you are going to take so that it can be known to all of us also. Malhotra replied. Hello Parimala,
According to my thought they were genuine to you.So that you have to decide whether to tie with that family or not.Therefore you have to decide because it is your life and it must be decided by you only. Manu replied. Hi Parimala,
So it would be better only for getting tonsure or bay hair cut and it would suits for other also.You decide whether to do or not.Because generally girls will be fond of hair and it is not so easy to do hair cut. No Name replied. Hello Parimala,
Some families have they own their customs and traditions in their family.So that they have told to your family in advance only.You need to know about that you need to decide to do marriage with that family or not. Munna replied. Hi Parimala,
So you are ready for marriage and what have you decided then.But making tonsure for repeated times is also some what not easily acceptable.You need to decide about that before getting married. Mihir replied. Hello Parimala,
What have you decided to do then for that match.Any how you need to take good decision because it is your future of your life.Can you post an reply for this message so that i too can know what have you decided. Not real replied. Hi parimala,
So you explain your problem with your parents and you ask suggestion for them only to do with that match.So that they may help you in any ways.And you think about that also.I wish you would good decision which will favor you. No Name replied. Hi parimala,
What have you decided to do are you going to agree with that match.But before taking any decision you need to think twice.So that you need not suffer in future also.Think twice before taking decision. Mala replied. Hi parimala,
So you were in confusion what to do regarding marriage.But it is your life and now days many woman are making tonsure.That to in different hair styles.So you can go with it and it would be fashioned for you also. Manah replied. Hello Parimala,
What have you decided to do then to agree for marriage or not.Because you already knew all the customs and traditions before only.Then you need to take proper decision which will make you happier also.