Beauty & Grooming  Discussion Forum

My name is Parimala and from a Telugu speaking middle class orthodox family in Hyderabad. I am 23, have passed B.Sc. and working in an auto show room as a receptionist for the past two years. My parents have identified an engineer groom for me who is also from a similar orthodox middle class family and working in a reputed private firm. He is 26, very good looking, very well mannered. His parents are also down to earth and well mannered. The horoscope matches very well. They do not want any dowry and a simple marriage is acceptable. This is the sixth groom my parents have tried for me and they do not want to miss this family.

But the catch is this. The boy’s family had some severe problems about ten years ago. After being advised by their astrologer that the family will be better off with annual family tonsure at Tirupati and short hair, the family goes to Tirupati every June and all get tonsured. The females get their hair trimmed to nice boy cuts once in two months between tonsures. The boy’s two elder sisters began growing long hair only after they got married, one six years ago and the other four years ago. The remaining five continue the annual June family tonsure even today. The older sister’s in-laws allowed her to tonsure after her two children were born and she happily returned to biennial tonsure two years ago and boy cut in between.

We were aghast when the groom’s party came to meet us. The 78 year old granny, the boy’s 51 year old mom and the older sister were having neat barbershop boy cuts. They told all this and said that they expected the daughter in law to accept this practice whole-heartedly since short hair and annual tonsure have done good for the family. I am having a beautiful waist long braid. The family and the boy are very good but this requirement is unnerving me. My parents are pressing me to accept it happily since many middle class ladies are keeping short hair nowadays and there is nothing to be shy about it. Many ladies do get tonsured also on one pretext or the other. The older sister of the groom told me that it is a nice experience to have a tonsure and also a clipper cut in a barber shop and I should not miss it. And that is why she has returned to it even in her in-laws’ place. The show room boss does not mind my having a bald head or boy cut. Some of my friends and colleagues are pressing to accept while a few are pressurising to reject. I am at a loss. The groom’s parents have given time till 1st Jan to tell one way or the other.

If I accept, the marriage will be in March and within a week after that I and the groom will be Tirupati baldies and only after that we will have our first night. Again in June along with the family I will have to tonsure and after that a regular barber shop boy cut will be there. It will be good bye to long hair forever.

My question is: are tonsure and boy cuts really enjoyable as the groom's sister is making out? Is it worth to forego long hair for a marriage? What shall I do? hari replied. Hello Pari,
SO you got married it is good to hear also can you state what have you felt when head shave is done can you share and are you going to maintain it with the same hair style or not can you revert back with the post. Kittu replied. Hello Pari,
You had faced the problem but you have to solved the issue you got married and you are happy with you married life also. I hope you had faced some problem while it is done but you were happy with it. Parimala replied. Today I had my boycut in the barbershop. I will post the details tomorrow. tanay replied. i think so u should think about it and should take a right decision. Guna replied. Hello Pari,
So you have done marriage to that guy only congrats and how is your first experience regarding the head shave and are you going to maintain the same hair style what are you going to do can you share that one. Rita replied. Hello Pari,
So you have done marriage congrats and how is your first hair cut experience can you share it with us and are going to continue with the same air style also can you share your opinions with us if possible Myntra replied. Hello Pari,
So you have done marriage finally.How is your marriage life can you share it if it is possible.And how do you felt when your first hair cut is done.And are you going to maintain the same also for further. Mani replied. Hello Pari,
So you are facing the problem for your marriage and at last you have solved it and can you share how did you feel when you are experiencing it what was your first feeling about that can you if possible. Purvi replied. Hello Pari,
Congrats how is your married life and what about the hair cut so you have done mottai or head shave also.I wish you must be blessed with all and your husband and in laws must be kind to them and even you also to them. Bio replied. Hi Pari,
So finally you have accepted for marriage and you had done also.How did you felt for your first hair cut and are you going to maintain the same hair style for continue seasons can you share if it possible. Not real replied. Hello Pari,
So finally you have accepted with that decision and you were happily married so that what was your immediate step after your marriage.Because it is your first hair cut after your marriage and what did you felt. No Name replied. Hello Pari,
So finally you have take the decision that you have married am happy for that so you had experienced with tonsure or hair cut what was your opinion and hoe did you felt about that can you share it with us. Prakash replied. hello Parimala,
It is good to know that you have got married and am happy for it so what is your first exp on the mottai or hair cut after your marriage.Can you let us know what you have done and how did you felt. No Name replied. Hello Pari,
So you were in confused state and you have decide what to do also so that you had decided that you were ready to do and follow all the traditions of your family also.I wish you good luck. None replied. Hello parimala,
It was good on you that you got married and am happy for you also.I wish you would lead an happy family and you will be happy always.And can you share me your exp regarding mottai. Care replied. Hi Parimala,
In these days people still follows such rituals and you agreed with them and became a family member.So how is your new family and what was your experience while it is being done and there is no chance of growing hair again. None replied. Hello Pari,
So finally you got married am happy for that.At last you agreed to make hair cut with your new family then how was the experience to you How did you felt when it is being done to you.Can you share if it possible. No Name replied. Hello Pari,
Finally you have ne marriage happy to hear that.So what about your first experience when you have done hair cut,how do you felt when it was done to you.Can you share if it is possible for me. Neetu replied. Hi Pari,
You have posted a question and you had even posted the solution also.You just shared your thoughts with in the forum.So how was your married life and how did you felt when hair cut is happened to you. Neel replied. Hello Pari,
So you had done marriage.It was a good news and when your hair cut was done.And you need to maintain the same hair style for some years know it would be hard for you there is no option for at least two plates also.