to all who lost their little angels their very existance


When our loved ones have to go
It hurts a lot this we all know
But think of what they have to gain
They' re in Heaven and have no more pain

They are at peace and they are free
What a wonderful place to be
We can' t see them that is true
At the end we will meet them too

Departure certainly feels its very way
Why our babies have gone away?
To meet our Lord face to face
To be with him in his own place.


K.Radha replied. Anubhooti,

No, Anubhooti we' ve gotten our wires crossed! Goodness me I am SO sorry if you somehow thought that you had offended anyone. Least of all myself!!! I feel positively awful that you are sitting there thinking you have said or done something wrong, even worse to think that you have no idea what that something could be AND worse STILL because you have NOT done anything. I hope you' re able to look back on this and laugh but honestly Anubhooti I don' t know what made you think we were upset with you.

Is it because we said you needed to take care of yourself? That was just our concern for you. And if it was because I said you can' t compare losses, well, I am sorry if what I said cameout all wrong but I just wanted to impress umpon you that your loss is no less than anyone elses. Is there something in particular that I said that upset you or made you feel I was angry with you? If so please tell me what it was so that I dont make the same mistake because I do feel awful about this.

I hope you' re not worried that your posts or poem have brough up painful memories for which yu need to apologize for. Those of us who' re active in the forum know that reading of anothers loss will be upsetting because its upsetting to think that there is a heart broken mother sitting alone somewhere. And we know that sometimes we will read something that sparks an almost forgotten memory or feeling but this is something we know and accept is part of being a member of this board.

C' mon Anubhooti, you' ve been through a lot and the last thing you should worry yourself with is if you' ve accidenly upset a couple of strangers online. You' re an absolute sweety but you should be thinking of yourself and relaxing. Have a soak in the tub, you' re in the UK yes? I don' t know about you but I LOVE soaking in the bath and with winter on its way in your area it would be twice as nice.

In time we' ll be here to remind you that you' ve just got to roll with the punches that are thrown at you in life, duck and weave as best you can and if you get knocked down... Well then girlie, we' ll be saying, dust yourself off and you get back in there to fight another day. But right now, we just want you to start taking care of yourself, we' d like to hear that you spent an afternoon not worrying about the world or others, we just want to see you feeling hopeful. I guess that is one of the reasons why we all come here. We' ve all walked the lonely path you' re on and we just want to be there to make sure the next woman finds her way to happiness.

Warmest Wishes
Kate K.Radha replied. Hi Anubhooti,

I thought I would reply here because your other thread has so many replies. You made a comment I really wanted to discuss further.. You said \" I really can say now I lost a less than U,Siya and ofcourse my Parents\" , how can you think that? 4 weeks, 40 weeks, 4 years or 40 years, time makes NO difference. You lost the most precious thing in your life, time with your child doesn' t come into it!!! It' s the time spent WITH OUT your child and like everyone else here, and million around the world, you will be without your child for the rest of your life. I mean, I can see the point you' re trying to make but I hope you can see mine... The time we had with our babies, no matter how long, was fleeting.

I don' t mean to sound glib but I feel like you' re quite lucky to have the family you have. It sounds like your parents are very caring people and having lost children of their own I guess it has brought you all closer. I doubt it made things easier, how could it, but to know that you have two people close to you who can truly understand is a comfort you should grab with both hands.

I am not going to nag at you for not eating because I am sure you have had everyone doing that and I know its easy to forget at a time like this... BUT I am going to remind you that you' ve been through a lot physically and emotionally so you' re not in 100% health and you do need to be gentle and caring toward yourself... For no other reason than because your baby lives on through you is why I am reminding you... You might forget your obligations toward yourself but I know you' ll do whats right for your angel baby so rest up and eat well Anubhooti.

I really wish I could give a list of things that are going to make things better for you. It can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how many times you say it will pass there might be days that you are convinced it may not end. But it will and you will be a mother to a healthy, happy and sometimes naughty child. Just like the oyster turns a grain of sand into a marvelous pearl you will take this loss and pain and build a better person out of it. And having said that I am going to send you a big hug and sign off. I am never further than a post away and if you ever want to email me than feel free to do so at my gmail account katmeme