Things You Must Never do When Your Child Throws Tantrums
Handling a child when he or she throws tantrums is the most difficult tasks. Learn about the things which you must never do when your child starts throwing tantrums. Doing such things will help you to handle the situation easily.
Throwing tantrums is the easiest way for kids to express their anger. They know this is the only way by which they can get what they want; it is the only way by which they are heard carefully. When the kids are not of the age to express themselves verbally they stick to this way for their easy rescue.
To pacify a tantruming child, parents need to follow certain guidelines very strictly. Some of them are given below. Read on to know.
Never Start with Your Own Irritation Tantrum
No parents like to see their kids crying incessantly over something. Sometimes parents lose their cool and scream back at their kids only to make them more stubborn. When your kid is throwing tantrum never ever start with your own rage tantrum. This will spoil the situation and make it worse.
Do Not Try to Reason Out if the Tantrum Continues
Reasoning out to your kid when she is rebellious is of no use. She will stick to her grounds no matter how well you try to explain out things to her. She will continue screaming if she finds you are struggling to make her quiet. So wait until she calms down.
Do Not Succumb to Your Child’s Demands
Some parents often succumb to the demands of their kids just to get out of the situation for that time being. This is a very wrong practice. It gives a signal to kids that they can get whatever they want if they start throwing tantrums at parents.
Do Not Ignore
It is ok to ignore the tantrums if they are short lived, but if the tantrum continues, ignoring your kid will not solve the situation. She needs your counselling immediately. You have to handle the situation tactfully.
Never Leave Your Child Alone
Practising time-out is helpful but make sure you are leaving your kid in a safe place. Be in her vicinity and watch out her actions. She may become rebellious and get injured in the way. So be very careful not to leave her alone in an unsafe place.
Do Not Negotiate During Tantrums
When your child is throwing tantrums it is of no use if you try to negotiate things with her. So try to sort out things in a different way. That does not mean you have to bribe her with her favourite toys or chocolates. Try to divert her attention towards other activities that may seem interesting to her and try to involve her in those activities for some time and she will forget the issue instantly.
Do Not Take Others’ Remarks into Account
People love to give advices without knowing the situation properly. So do not pay heed to what other people are advising. Do exactly what you think the best, because no one understands your child better than you do. If you try other’s advice it may work in the negative way which may prove to be harmful for your child when she grows up.
Do Not Be Too much Rigid or Too Much Flexible
Too much of anything is not good in any circumstances whatsoever. And for kids over flexibility or over rigidity, both are harmful in the long run. If you are too flexible you are pampering your child. If you are too rigid you are not paying attention to the needs of your kids. Both these behaviour are not acceptable. So try to be in tune with the circumstances and life will be easier.
It is a very common nature of kids to throw tantrums, so there is no need to worry about it. Just find out the ways to deal with those tantrums peacefully, without making your child stubborn and arrogant.
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