hello everyone,
I am 23 weeks pregnant and have been diagnosed with cervical incompetence, my cervix has started to open. My doc has put me on bed-rest. I don' t know how long bed rest can keep the baby in my womb....I m very very afraid of delivering a premature baby. I don' t want to have a pre-mature baby as there are long term risk factors, I don' t want to bring the baby into this world with complications, rather not have one.....don' t know what should I do, should I terminate the pregnancy or hang in there.For a healthy baby, I need to push my pregnancy till 36 weeks, don' t know if its feasable. I am emotionally torned, I had sort of built relation with my unborn, I was eagerly looking forward and now things have gone bad. Does anyone knows of any success stories to motivate me. I live in US with my husband and have no family to support. I can' t discuss this with my mom as she is India and don' t want to scare her..... please suggest me something...
Thanks
Ishi Breeze replied. Hey Ishi....

How r u doin gurl, howz da progress.... Hope alls well at ur end.... have u been able to chat wit my collegue?

Tkcr
Lotsa luv,
Saba Breeze replied. Hi Ishi....

Here' s my colleagues email id..... nakshatra79 (its a gmail id) hope this helps....

Jus let me know in advance wen u wud like to chat so dat i can inform her accordingly. or u cud even mail her....

Tkcr sweetie..... lotsa luv,
Saba tej replied. hey ishi dont loose heart , God will take care of everything but i feel you should call your mum there, its always better to have somebody arrnd especially mum is the best person to be called as she can take care of you and also of your emotional needs, pl go ahead and share your problem with her, it would be of great help. trust me. and all the best. Ishi replied. Thanks Rashi and Saba for your messages, I was/am very low these days...u don' t know how happy I was a few days ago, everything was going just fine and one fine day things just changed and here I am all crying. Your messages do give inspiration and makes me think positive...I HOPE, REALLY HOPE MY BABY WILL BE FINE.
Saba, I would like to talk to your friend, could u pass her email to me, would help getting her first hand experience
I hope you both are doing great and keep sharing your progress
Love and good luck
Ishi Breeze replied. Hi Ishi.....

First of all plz plz plz calm down gurl.... tension is not gud for u or ur baby.... i cant imagine wat u r goin thru.... but i hope this helps.... I know of a case like dis it hpnd wit my friend n quite early in her pregnancy.... she ws jus 3 months n her cervix hd opened started at 1.5 cm n opened till abt 4 cm.... her doc tied a knot which ws opened a lil before her delivery… she hd a C-sec. She was asked to b on complete bed rest wit feet elevated at all times….

N don worry about a premature baby…. U need to really hv positive thoughts specially arnd this time….. if u want to talk to my fren on dis let me know I shall give u her email id u can chat, it mite help…..

N plz don hv negative thoughts for d sake of ur baby…… everything will b fine Inshallah n u will have a healthy baby u’ll b proud of….. Jus pray to God he always luks after all of us…..  so tk very gud care of urself.

For any more information do write in I’l b glad to help…….

Lotsa luv to u n d baby :)
Saba
Rashi replied. Dear Ishi
During my first pregnancy i had to admitted in the hospital for 10 days during to early bleeding and high risk of miscarriage...at tht time i had a roommate who was in there was almost 2 mnts (thought not at a strech) as she had the same problem as urs cervical incompetence...and it sated ard at the same time as urs..... she was inserted some kind of ring to support here cervix and was on complete bed rest den throughout..... and ofcourse on magnesium infusion.... I m located in germany n here when ur ordered for strict bed rest u hv to stay in hospital and also if they think u can take rest at home then u get help to take care of household chores....chk out if those options are available in US. Well tht friend of mine delivered a healthy baby girl naturally post here due date :) -so you see though u might have a tough time ahead of you (like u might hv to take complete bed rest for the rest of the pregnancy) you can certainly enjoy its fruits later on:) I think you shld discuss with ur gynac in detail if ur not satisfied den take a second opinion but pls before exploring all the possible outcomes don' t just think of terminating your pregnancy...
I am sure you will hold ur baby in ur hands :) so hand in der n thnk positive :)

lots of luv
Rashi