raising children in a mixed-marriage
I'm a Bengali woman raised in the States from a very young age and I'm married to a non-Indian man, raised mainly in Europe. We have a 9-month-old daughter, and I would be interested in talking to other Indian parents in mixed marriages about how they have introduced Indian culture to their children, what challenges they have faced from their kids, tehir families perhaps and their spouses, and what resources are out there to help us, in the Indian community or more broadly, in the parenting community.
One issue we have started to discuss at home, for instance, is whether our daughter should eat beef. I am a pretty poor Indian by many standards, ie dont speak the language well, dont know as much about Hinduism as I should, but I grew up not eating beef. And while I have no problem with other Hindus eating beef, or my husband eating it, or it being cooked in our house, I have a visceral reaction against the idea of my own child eating beef. My husband, who, like many Europeans, has no idea why an intelligent person would follow such religious prohibitions, isnt terribly sympathetic. Moreover, my daughter has a 10 year-old half-sister, my husband's daughter from his first marriage, who is also of European heritage and eats any kind of meat, of course. So you can imagine the kinds of arguments I would get from my kid when she's older and big sis and dad are having a burger and she isnt.
Anyway, this may be a silly issue but for me, it is one of the small but emotionally loaded ways cultural differences play out in a mixed marriage.
All constructive thoughts welcome!