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2008-08-19
Name: Jyoti ------- --------- ---------- ------- --------- ---------- ------- --------- ----------

Hello all

actually I got married in nov,2006 and live with my mother-in-law and father-in-law...... I am not happy at all....... my husband is very nice and he loves all a lot...... he can not live without his mom and dad...... we also have a son(1 yr old)....

my in laws always used to comment me..... not happy with me at all..... i alz try my best....but for no hopes.....

my mother-in-law also doesnt allow me to wear jeans...... i mean this is my only life....if i cant live it by my way.....whts the use of living yar..... i have alz wore jeans in my life during my studies and I cant live without it....... i am so sad in my life..... kabhi kabhi to man karta hai sab chod ke bhag jaun.....

I dont know how to live happy with them and what should i do so that my mother-in-law allow me to wear jeans.... common yar we live in Delhi..... I m working its not village...........dont know wht has happened to her..... I am a software engineer working in an MNC..... everybody used to wear western dresses.....why cant I???/

Plz suggest wht should I do??????


Jyoti
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2016-07-08
#1
Name: Natasha
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hi Jyothi,
If you are facing any problem in your family try to solve it in your own methods.
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2016-07-01
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Name: Roopa
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hi Jyothi,
Why do you feel like that since it is joint family there will be some ups and downs and you have to solve all those slowly and i wish your problem would be solved also.
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2016-06-22
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Name: Natasha
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hi Jyoti,
So Joint family will include different types of people and it is good to have such family and all will be with you and you will not feel lonely in your life also.
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2016-06-16
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Name: Anju
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hi Jyoti,
Seriously yaar joint family would be nice.But it is the group of people who will be together to share happiness and even sorrows also.But in today's generation such families are very less.
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2016-06-09
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Name: Jyothi
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hi Person,
Joint family is good.You need to adjust with the people.Some times it happens you have to fulfill all your wishes by giving an information.Then you will not face any problem.
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2016-06-02
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Name: Flora
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hi Jyoti,
Some times we have to take decisions which would make our elders happy also.And if you are interested in that costume then you need to convince your in law.That would be good to you only.
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2016-05-26
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Name: Rachu
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hi Jyothi,
You know for what reason you were not happy then you can solve it by sharing it with your beloved ones and they would give you with some solution also and you can have a happy life also.I wish every one do that.
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2016-05-17
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Name: Swetha
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hi Jyothi,
It is the only problem are you facing many people are facing more than this and you have to be happy that you do have very less also and time being you can wear jeans it is not only the life for you.
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2016-05-14
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Name: Natasha
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hello Jyoti,
Can i say what would be the better option to be happy you just keep cal do not speak to any one you do your work calmly you just try this if it works then everything would be happy also for you only.
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2016-05-12
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Name: Jack
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hello Jyothi,
You just need to hold patience and it would give you best result at the end and you need to compromise or adjust according to the situation then only you can live in that family and it will bring good name to you also.
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2016-05-10
#11
Name: Kali
Subject:  RE:Not happy in a joint family.....plz suggest
Hello Jyoti,
So you were loved to wear jeans we can understand your problem but not you mother in law and she might be very particular about your costumes and she is not insisting to wear even sarees then what would you do tell me you need to adjust for some things you must not be stubborn also.Need to hold patience.
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2011-08-18
#12
Name: Sanjwali
Subject:  Same Situation
Dear All,

This is Sanjwali, from Mumbai, I am too suffering from the same situation which Jyoti suffers.
Jyoti I really can understand your situation yaar, because I m too………….
I having tears in my eyes now.

I really don’t understand what to do.
My own family is very very modern, and here my in-laws are very dominating and orthodox type. I got love marriage. My husband has no problem with the jeans.
Very first time after 2 months of our marriage I wore jeans with my husband’s permission, but when I came back I came to know that by MIM & FIL doesn’t want me to wear it, As I m working in MNC, all other girls wearing jeans and all and I fell very embarrass k… y I cant were it.

In my office we all girls used to were jeans on Friday, I asked my MIL I will were jeans at least on Friday but she said NO. now my husband is also not supporting me because he doesn’t want to fight, he says you ask mother and were I don’t have any problem.

Hye Jyoti : What action you have taken now?? Please reply.

Sanjwali
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2008-09-06
#13
Name: Amitabh Bacchan
Subject:  Mard ban mard
Abe oye apne aap ko married guy kehne waale ladies ki site me aa kar kya un sab se behas kar rahaa hai mard hai to mardon se muqablaa kar .Zara dekhon to ter mardangi .saas ke diye kapde pehentaa hai kya ghar jamaii hai .
Chup be mard ban mard
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2008-09-06
#14
Name: rati
Subject:  He does not have any level
Dear neena ,
Do not come down to the level of this person .do not even care to answer him .We are not answerable to him .
His words, lang .evrything shows his upbringing what a \" cultured\" person he is .
why do u want to stoop to his level .
Please do not degrade ur own self .
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2008-09-05
#15
Name: Neena
Subject:  We need to end this
Dear All,

See the kind of posts on this thread regarding Jyoti' s problem !!!!
I am plainly shocked with ' a married guy' ' s words . He is outdoing himself every time in rudeness.
He writes ...
\" Till today she (his mil) presented many things to me which is not at all of my interest. I do wear them in my day-to-day life. I know it is against my interest.
Finally one simple line: I´ m not just thinking of my happiness in my life.
If you do not understand this, i cannot help you.\"

So this is what is written to me. No, i am not turning red in anger or fuming reading the above. I am just surprised how come he can compare his situation with Jyoti' s ?
He wears the clothes gifted by mil time to time (we all do that by the way ) but this is purely different than wearing mil' s dress code all the time for the entire life! But the married guy very conviniently chooses to ignore this big difference. He will write paragraphs how sacrificing and adjusting he is. well, good for him then. He loves dhotis ... good for him but will he wear this dress for a lifetime if mil insists ? His answer never focus on the question asked. No use in pin pointing to him that he is not answering the correct question.
Poor jyoti, she just disappeared reading the replies here. I hope her situation has improved at home.

For married guy:
you wrote ... \" One note to you: i do not need anyone to welcome me to post anything in this site except the site moderator. \"
Now all I can say is I was just being polite to you by welcoming you to comment on topics but now I will not respond to your posts in this tread or others. Reason ... simple ... you just donot deserve any attention.

For Rati, Vrinda, Namita :
Heard of this saying ?
\" No point in playing mud thowing match with a pig. After some time you will realize that you are getting dirty but the pig is actually enjoying it !!! \"


Thanks for reading this long post.


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