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Name: Editor
Have you heard of the term called tocophobia? Have you faced fear of pregnancy? Is it possible to overcome fears?
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Name: Rene
Subject:  Fear of pregnancy
I was surprised and yet comforted when I learned of tocophobia. I am 52 yrs of age and I had two sons, many years ago. I was nervous as a new mom, but informed, my husband and I went to lamaze classes together both times and he was very supportive. I don' t know why I developed a serious fear of getting pregnant AFTER having two perfect babies and pregnancies! But, I recently learned that I put a serious wedge of resentment between my husband and myself. I panicked when I suspected I might be pregnant after sex and made life basically miserable for him. To this day, he resents the angst and worry I went thru, he feels that I did not ' trust' him to go ahead and have more children, and what is the worst...he really wanted a little girl. The boys are men now and call me and are close to me, my husband feels hurt and left out and completely resents me for not having more children and mostly for the irrational way that I behaved after each time we had sex, worrying that I could be pregnant. I didn' t know anything about tocophobia. I am hoping that someone can relate to my story so that I can help resolve the open and very sore issue with my husband?
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Name: namasteindia
Subject:  tocophobia
thanks for this information.
i have tocophobia. I developed it after my first pregnancy
the water bag had bursted and the pain was increasing. i wanted to go for c-section but my mother in law was against it. she kept saying no for c-section after 15 hrs of continous pain and trauma my husband agreed and my son was born 4.5kgs. doctors said that normal delivery would not have been possible.

after this incident i developed fear of pregnancy and child birth
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Name: marie1
Subject:  Fear
Hi i think i must have Tocophobia. Its not the child birth but the being pregnant. I feel physically sick at the thorght of carrying a child and having it live in side me. It totally freaks me out. My husband really wants a family and i just dont know if i could cope.
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Name: lulu
Subject:  Intense fear
I have been married for 5 years and I insist on using condoms and birth control pills. I have had this fear of being pregnant for as long as I can remember. I' m 30 now and everyone around me are popping out kids. I cannot even explain what Tocophobia is to them. I had no idea there was a name for this. I feel a bit better now knowing there are others out there.
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Name: marie1
Subject:  Message
You have made me feel so much better. I thought i was the only person in the world who felt like this. My husband really wants a family but just dont think i can do it. I feel sick at the thought of being pregnant and carrying a baby. No one underatnds.
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Name: Vidya
Subject:  counseling helps
Yes, I have heard this term before. As I am working in the hospital as a supervisor I have heard all unusual things regarding pregnancy and childbirth. I have even saw women undergoing such fear. There was this woman who visited a psychiatrist in our hospital to overcome her fear how childbirth. She was feeling very nervous thinking about the pain. She visited twice and then out of curiosity I met her after her delivery and she told me that she had overcome her fear and she said that delivering a baby was a great experience. I am myself married and have two kids. I never actually experienced such fear. My deliveries happened at home only. I think it is quite possible to overcome you fears through counseling and with proper treatment.
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Name: Arzoo
Subject:  one can overcome tocophobia
There are no scientific explanations as why people have such phobias. If you are suffering from any such phobia it is better to seek the help of the professional. I heard that tocophobia takes time to cure or one has to live with it or one has to overcome it. I have even heard that women who have tocophobia are so fearful toward pregnancy and giving birth to a child that they avoid the pregnancy and instead opt for adoption. They prefer to adopt a child rather than giving birth to a child. I think it is absolutely possible to overcome the fear. I have heard that gynecologists and counselors help to overcome the fear of pregnancy. So for sure hope is there.
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Name: Rashmi
Subject:  never heard of it
I never thought or heard of something called tocophobia. It is something I am getting to know about first time. Though I am not married, I am curious to know about this fear of pregnancy. But according to me every woman must be feeling slight fear about giving birth to a baby and suffering labour pain. When my aunt was pregnant she was a bit anxious about pregnancy. She was terrified as doctors told there might arise some complications during labour. Hopefully she did well and her child came out without much complications. Most women fear going in to labour a little but I think tocophobia is more severe than just being frightened of labour. I am sure after therapy you will be able to deal with these fear.
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