Dealing with temper tantrums of children can be quite frustrating for parents. But getting hyper is not the solution for dealing with such behaviour in children. Read on to find ways to handle your child’s temper tantrums.
Can we confidently say there is any creation on earth which does not want attention? Can we say in this nature, we can do away with at least few things without any second thought or hesitation? If the answer is “NO”, then how can we say that a child will remain calm and composed without rebelling for anything?
Including anything and everything on earth, we can say everyone needs attention. Both living and non living things on this earth need attention. Living things will deter, decay and get depressed without proper attention. When comes to non living things, they evaporate, diminish and deteriorate over a period of time. So when an individual shows out her expressions, vengeance or anger, it is an urge and a request seeking attention from people around. Similarly, even a child uses tantrums
to show her importance and also get her due attention. As parents, we need to give that attention to every child, for a healthy growth and development.
So, if your child shows out such signals, try these ways to calm down your child and divert her energy towards positive thinking,
Open a Conversation and Listen Carefully
Generally, conversation will allow your thoughts to proceed into a next level. It will allow the dialogue happen between people and help you to become more reasonable in your thinking. So your child will be sensible enough to realize, she is wrong at times. And if she can realize this, she might as well forget everything and go for a play. If not, satisfy her reasonable demands. Also tell her, that next time she should behave
more sensible and should not get irritated or get agitated.
Check if the Child has Had Her Meals
Usually, if the child is hungry, she does not want to think. So calm her down and let her have her meal peacefully. If your child is reluctant to eat her meal help her with water, fruit juice or any liquids. When a child thinks with her cool mind, she can understand the family situations and gets closer to you and gives a proper solution to her own problem. This will be a beautiful way to end a tantrum
Help Her to Relax and Sleep for a While
Ask your child why she is agitated and tell him to relax and sleep. Assure her that in the mean time you will think and come out with a possible solution. As your child is anyway tired, she will like the suggestion. Once she gets up, pretend to be all set and focused, involve her in a dialogue, and ask for detail. You can find a solution within the problem she mentioned. If she does not like the idea of sleeping, ask her to close her eyes and remain silent for a while. With all these suggestions, she will feel comfortable that she is heard and given proper time and attention in the family. Sometimes, all she wants is only proper time and attention.
Motivate Your Child to Think
Still, in few situations, we may not get a ready-made solution for few problems. Also check if your child has had her shower and is feeling clean and fresh. When she is busy with her shower, tell her that you will consult elders or experts around. Never shout and say that she is stupid. She will never like it and she is sure to lose faith. You can also tell her, that she was wiser enough as a child to think sensibly. Narrate the past experiences, where your child was very smart enough to take her decisions properly. She will slowly start believing in herself and reduce her temper tantrums as she grows in age.
Ask the Child to Suggest Few Solutions
As your child comes out with her suggestions, listen to her. Find out from her, if she had an argument, fight with anyone at play or school. If so listen carefully. Ask her if she is upset with that issue and help her to come to terms and apologise if there is a need. Let her voice which one would be more reasonable for her and others around her. Inculcate, moral, ethical and social values, so that she will be more concerned and sensitive while taking her final decision. This will help her to become an empathetic person in this society.
Relate past instances when your child was reasonable in her decisions
Always Encourage your Child
Always encourage your child and tell her that she is very good. At times when she gets unreasonable, and her decision is not so good; try to correct her and be on her side. If her decision is not harming anyone, then go ahead to fulfil her desire. Slowly, get some logic prevail in her decision making capacity.
Always try and develop some passions, hobbies and a free time hobby which will relax her mind. All hobbies work like food for thought and will try to remove negative energy in your child and help her to be patient, cool and calm in his life.
Every child will learn from her own mistakes
and grow in life. When her mistake is not so big, excuse her and let her have her way. Every time, encourage her to become judicious in her thinking. A child who knows to be calm will throw fewer tantrums. She can understand to be rational in her thoughts and will never get agitated even when she grows up into an adult.How to deal with the temper tantrums in children? What are the reasons for temper tantrums in children? How to help children calm down when they are angry or frustrated? Discuss here.