Don’t you want your kids to be good and well behaved always? Here are a few tips to get kids to behave without yelling.Mohan was a small boy who always misbehaved with his parents. He would trouble them endlessly and create all sorts of mischief. He was very naughty. His parents made the mistake by
yelling at him every time he did some mischief. They would scream at him however there was no improvement in Mohan. He continued to trouble them in public and at home. A well known family friend suggested that they use positive affirmations instead of yelling. Slowly his parents made him understand that he could also become good. They started encouraging him every time he behaved well. Their positive words left a deep impression on him and he slowly began to change. He started helping his parents and stopped troubling them. Mohan’s parents were very proud and happy. They realized that things can be sorted without yelling.
Following are a few ways to get kids to behave using kind words and positive language.
No Substitute for Kindness
In this world, there is no substitute for kindness. Every time someone hurt Gandhiji, he would never hurt them back. They say an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. Being kind to the people who hurt you and forgiving them is a sign of a strong individual. Whether it is kids or elders, remember to be kind instead of yelling.
Use Positive Words
Instead of
punishments or negative words, you can use positive reinforcement with your kids. Encourage and reward
good behaviour. You can also ask your children to promise that they will be good. Tell them that they will be rewarded if they are good.
Use Powerful Phrases to Get Kids to Listen
There are many powerful phrases which you can use to
get kids to listen. Instead of telling them to ‘Shut Up’ or yelling at them, you can use powerful phrases like ‘remember what I told you’ or ‘what are you supposed to be doing now? There are a lot of powerful phrases which you can read
here.
Be Firm Without Being Overly Strict
You should be firm without being too strict. Get kids to behave by listing out the negative consequences. You have to examine the reasons for their
bad behaviour. You should also examine your own reasons for yelling. Thus, be firm without using harsh words.
Be Gentle and Loving
Buying a pet for kids can help them feel better if they are alone. A soft toy or puppet will also help to soothe and relax their mind. Some kids are very restless and frustrated. Some kids also have a lot of problems which can be solved if you are kind and understanding. Teachers should also follow the steps to be good to kids without hurting them.
A Little Humour Can Change the Situation
Instead of getting tense and yelling at kids, a little humour can deflect the situation and change everybody’s mood. Sometimes parents tend to remove their own insecurities and frustrations on the kid which leads to unwanted trouble. Hence, try to lighten the mood by cracking jokes and making kids laugh.
Conclusion
Today’s kids are very smart and intelligent. They are more aware about things as compared to previous times. Sometimes, there will be generation gap as well due to age differences between you and your children. Similarly, there is more stress and tension in single parent households as compared to families where both mother and father are present. Thus, try to reduce stress and solve problems without yelling. It will be good if your child learns to respect you and not hate you. Put yourself in their shoes and remember how you too were a kid once.
Why do kids misbehave? How to encourage kids to behave well? What are the ill effects of yelling at kids? Discuss here.