Yelling at children is one of the bad parenting habits. However, sometimes it is difficult to keep cool and avoid yelling when children misbehave. Here are 10 ways which parents can follow to discipline children without yelling at them.When your kids disobey you or show bad behaviour, you may think you can control the situation by
yelling at them. Sometimes it works out as well. But this is not a long term effective process. Yelling is considered to be one of the eight discipline strategies that can worsen behaviour problems. Let us check out how you can discipline your kids without yelling.
1. Set the Rules Clearly
You should establish clear
household rules and explain it to your kids. It is better to keep a written list which you can prominently display on the fridge or on the wall near the study table, any place where your kids can reach and read and get reminded.
2. Discuss the Negative Consequences
Plan ahead how you will handle your
kids' misbehaviour and this will help you not to yell as you already have a different plan to deal with it. When you set the rules, you plan the negative consequences, and then you should also explain them to the kids.
3. Punishment Should Be Logical
The negative consequences or punishments which you set should be logical. It can be taking away privileges, such as your kids cannot watch their favourite show, cannot go to play with friends, cannot take their bicycle for 2 days, etc. They should make your children learn from their mistakes.
4. Give Them Warnings When Needed
You should also plan the number of warnings to be given before applying the negative consequences on your children. It depends on what type of misbehaviour they are showing – if that really calls for warning or immediate
punishment.
5. Follow Through
You should not warn forever, otherwise they will think that if they do anything wrong; all they would face is mere warning. Instead, follow through the consequence you have explained earlier, and show them what you mean to say.
6. Alert Them About Changes
If you feel that the consequences are not effective, you can always change them. If you think you need to modify few rules as your kids are growing bigger, so few discipline issues may call for a change, you can always change. But always let your kids know the change in the rules and the consequences if any.
7. Say Yes, Avoid No
Try to use more positive words than negative. Prefer to say “Yes, let’s do the cleaning” instead of “No, don’t play anymore, let’s do the cleaning now”. This creates a positive spirit in your children if you set more “do” rules than “don’ts”.
8. Catch the Good Things
It should be always that you are catching your kids doing bad and giving them punishment; you should also find them doing good things. Praise them when they show good discipline. Encourage and motivate them. Give them positive attention for following the rules.
9. Be a Role Model
The rules you set should not be only for your kids, but for every member of the family. Children look up to you. If you ask them to respect others and you are screaming at your partner or anyone in front of them, that brings bad effect. You should be a role model for all the rules at the first place.
10. Show Love
Always get connected with your kids rather than correcting them. Spend more time with them. Show them love.
Give them a big hug. Make them realize how important they are to you and how their good behaviour matters to you.
When you yell, you do not teach your kids to manage their behaviour, and they lack the understanding to resolving the situation peacefully. So follow the above mentioned discipline strategies to teach your kids how to improve their behaviour better effectively.
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