Hi All,

I have a son who is 9 months old. I hired a nanny last year to look after him because i had intended to go back to work. I had trained her to do all my baby s work and then she completely took over from me. Earlier i thought this was great as i was happy to be home supervising and looking after him being a support.
But since last month i m kind of very worried as my son wakes up in the night and wants to go to her only and then stops crying once she takes him. he s also not very comfortable with me and if he s playing with me and she passes by he wants to run to her. He also sees her and calls her mama. Have i lost my baby to her? Or should i kick her out and take over.
Please help me friends i m really worried? Will he realise who his mother is once he is older? Alice replied. Hi Dutta,

I do agree with all the others as my son too would initially go only to my in laws and not to me , but now he knows who are his parents and wants to spend more time with us.

Take him out on holidays , but the most important thing is to spend time and that is quality time which they require the most.
As you are working it' s difficult , because we do get completely tired and stressed out once we are back at home , but i think u can spare at least 15- 30 minutes with your child.

Trust me it' s a part of growing up and we all grow up with our children and it' s lots of fun .

Take care and enjoy
Alice.
mdmom replied. I know how you feel as it happened with me as well but it was my mother-in-law, not a nanny. With my busiest schedule and returning back to work in 5 weeks, I had no choice and I was deeply hurt. I even once heard my MIL saying to my baby that she is the mom and ofcourse my baby would not come to me. That was it, I couldnot take any longer. I was losing my mind, I started looking for a daycare where kids have multiple care-givers so that they don' t get this emotionally attached to one. Now, my daughter goes to day care and has a healthy relationship with me, although she hasn' t said Mama to me yet, she is 16mths old. She gets sick, now and then at the day care but we have more quality time together now. And MIL is back to her house. Good Luck! pritee replied. hi ....

i think u r being paranoid.

he is a small child, nanny is always there !! ofcourse it shows that she gives him a lot of love & attention that he keeps going to her.

m sure its difficult to see all that... but spend some quality time with him & u will see drastic changes soon.

i too work while my MIL & a maid take care of my child during the day. but i make sure m with my child the minute i step in the house.... sat - sun & all holidays m with him. ofcourse this happens with me also, but i have learnt to take it !!

its bound to happen because the child is with them all day. i think he is in safe hands.

alls well, dont worry.
pritee bedi replied. hi friend,Prao has given the best suggestion but if u can' t quit ur job don' t worry ething' ll b o.k. when kid will grow up he' ll b o.k. but take care when u r 8 home pay maximum attention 2 baby no gussa pls b patient.same was with me earlier my daughter didn' t cum 2 me she is 3yrs now she is very possesive for me.if nanny is nice & caring its good .enjoy motherhood prao replied. ofcourse he will know you are his mother.. but this is a little scary.. even I would be worried..
If u have quit your old job and not very particular abt joining back then I would say take over from the Nanny slowly and then send her away.. stay at home till your child is 3 or so
If u r on leave or have to return to work in a few months time then try to spend more time with your child.. like make sure u give him his breakfast and dinner.. coz even when u start working u would probably be home for those meals.. u take him to the park instead of the maid.. do something..