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 Views on Poll 
Name: anu Country: India Comment: Some working women prove to be very good mothers but some of them are not capable to do so.This is B'cause the women who do not work they can pay more attention to thier children whereas those who work they cannot pay much attention to their children. They instead keep a baby sitter which according to me is not right. Name: priyanganie Country: Other Comment: I am a working mother. I am very proud of my only daughter, at 5 years of age she is a loving and well balanced child. I believe it is due to quality time given to her by me. I think that is what is important, quality vs quantity. I am happy in my life. I prioritse my life always putting my family first, but striking the correct balance between work and personal. This shows in my daughter. Name: pooja nikhil Country: India Comment: working women are just great moms!! Name: sarmilasen Country: India Comment: I am a child of a working mother.I too, AM a working mother.I have two beautiful children-a girl & a boy.My mother taught me to be self reliant & independent, broad minded and receptive to fresh ideas.I am trying to impart the same values to my children.Often in middle clss homes working is a necessity and not a choice.I feel a working mother gives 100% quality time to her children...does a non- working mother, busy with her household chores really give a 100% of her best to her child ?Not always...it is quality time that matters,not mollycoddling & over pampering. Name: Sarika Country: India Comment: I am mom of two kids, son - 6 years and daughter 9 months. I have always been working and staying with my in-laws. Its not the contribution of only mother but the whole family. My husband is an Architect and has flexible timings and my in-laws are well educated. We have a lavish life style because of my salary. So basically I have plus points that no household chores are my routine and all the off office hours are for my children plus Sat.&Sun. My whole family contributes a lot as a result we have a confident, self-reliant and very knowledgeble children. Because of my job I am well aware of the current affairs and try to inculclate good values in my children. Whereas I do feel I should devote myself completely but then the quality will be missing. On the whole I totally agree with nikita, Dubai's views. Name: nikita Country: Dubai Comment: i read naimath's view - while i do not disagree with the fact that non-working mothers can give all 24hrs a day of their life to their children - i wonder how many of them can give quality time. forget about quality - i wonder how many of them are able to inculcate better values in them - most of the non-working mothers i have come across are frustrated, unhappy people - not that they do not have nicer things in life but because they cannot have a life of their own, a mind of their own, being answerable for pettiest things in life, not being exposed to the outside world leads to an even narrower mind, and most often than not, all they do is spend a major part of their cooking and then sleeping or gossiping - i have very rarely come across non-working indian women who spend their time fruitfully and constructively and under such circumstances, what can they offer their children. i have yet to come across a family where both the parents are professionally settled and their childred are not - there might a couple of exceptions but then, in most cases, the children inculcate the same values and ambitions to something with their lives. As for understanding your child better because the mom stays at home - well that is a very big question mark. i have come across so many non working moms who do not even understand their children - they dont even the make the effort to do so - they do not eventry to read their childrem - let me tell you - i undrstand my daughter very well - one smallest bit of change in her expression or behaviour does not escape my eyes - she is only 11 and we are such good friends - she tells me everything about the whole day - if as a working mom, i had faild her, i do not think she would be a well adjusted child on such friendly terms with me. anyway, the point is not whether working moms make better moms or not - the basic factor is just one - whatever you do, work or stay at home - you have to be mentally very enlightened, broad minded, understand the changes taking place in our value system - react accordingly, bridge the generation gap, given a patient ear to whatever your child says, read even the slightest change in his expressions or behaviour, be on friendly terms rather than on mom-child term, be firm but not terrifying and whoever can be all these things is a great mom regardless whether she is working or not. Name: Priyanka Country: USA Comment: This issue is person dependent I feel. Mostly working mothers may not be able to pay 100% attention that non-working monther could. Time and attention is the most required thing for the kids. I do also feel that working woman can be a good mom as well. I have seen lot of mothers working and also pay equal attention to the kids. That is up to the kind of job, and attitude of the monther. Staying home will solve all the problem of the kids but you also involve lot of problems for your self when ur kid is grown up. So I would like to keep myself busy in some kind of job/service while I am taking care of the kid. Name: arushi Country: India Comment: all the working mothers are real moms Name: JARIN Country: India Comment: Working mothers are very busy. No spend time in her child. Name: DARLENE Country: India Comment: Its a debatable issue, there are kids who do fine with working moms as parents and there are those who do equally well with moms at home.having played both roles I know for a fact that being at home make a hell of a lot of difference to a growing kid...besides it helps me to know him better...being more in tune with his responses i know how to react...what to expect when and dealwith him with a lot less tension. My staying at home has helped build my kid's confidence...and i get to be his best friend...now what more could a mom ask for ? Name: naimath Country: India Comment: WE CAN AGREE AND DISAGREE WITH NIKITA'S OPINIONS. SHE FEELS THAT ATLEAST UPTO AGE 5 OF THE CHILDREN MOM SHOULD STAY HOME AND ALSO SAYS THAT MOMS SHOULD HAVE JOBS FOR THE REASON OF FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE. THE QUESTION HERE IS IS NOT IF THE MOM SHOULD BE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT. THE QUESTION IS WHETHER A MOM SHOLUD BE WORKING. THERE CAN BE NO DOUBT THAT THE MOM WHO STAYS HOME COULD BE A BETTER MOM THAN A WORKING MOM, FOR THE ONLY REASON THAT SHE COULD DEVOTE MORE TIME TO THE KIDS, AND THIS IS ALL THE MORE IMPORTANT. AND THERE COULD NOT BE TWO VIEWS ABOUT IT. Name: naimath Country: India Comment: WE CAN AGREE AND DISAGREE WITH NIKITA'S OPINIONS. SHE FEELS THAT ATLEAST UPTO AGE 5 OF THE CHILDREN MOM SHOULD STAY HOME AND ALSO SAYS THAT MOMS SHOULD HAVE JOBS FOR THE REASON OF FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE. THE QUESTION HERE IS IS NOT IF THE MOM SHOULD BE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT. THE QUESTION IS WHETHER A MOM SHOLUD BE WORKING. THERE CAN BE NO DOUBT THAT THE MOM WHO STAYS HOME COULD BE A BETTER MOM THAN A WORKING MOM, FOR THE ONLY REASON THAT SHE COULD DEVOTE MORE TIME TO THE KIDS, AND THIS IS ALL THE MORE IMPORTANT. AND THERE COULD NOT BE TWO VIEWS ABOUT IT. Name: naimath Country: India Comment: WE CAN AGREE AND DISAGREE WITH NIKITA'S OPINIONS. SHE FEELS THAT ATLEAST UPTO AGE 5 OF THE CHILDREN MOM SHOULD STAY HOME AND ALSO SAYS THAT MOMS SHOULD HAVE JOBS FOR THE REASON OF FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE. THE QUESTION HERE IS IS NOT IF THE MOM SHOULD BE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT. THE QUESTION IS WHETHER A MOM SHOLUD BE WORKING. THERE CAN BE NO DOUBT THAT THE MOM WHO STAYS HOME COULD BE A BETTER MOM THAN A WORKING MOM, FOR THE ONLY REASON THAT SHE COULD DEVOTE MORE TIME TO THE KIDS, AND THIS IS ALL THE MORE IMPORTANT. AND THERE COULD NOT BE TWO VIEWS ABOUT IT. Name: sarojini Country: India Comment: Now a days most of the women are interested in engaging themselves in extra activities so they are going to jobs at the same time they are taking full efforts to bring their wards in great manner. Name: manjula Country: India Comment: I am a working mom inspite of it i can bring my child with lot of care. Name: Nimmi Country: India Comment: A working mom has an opportunity of introducing a variety of subjects to her child and create more awareness of things. Name: Jeet Country: India Comment: My wife is a working mother and I think she makes a great mother. She spends a lot of quality time with my son and in fact I find that many housewifes are often busy shopping (ofcourse there are a great many who make really greatmotherrs too). Name: gauri Country: India Comment: now a days women have to go for work to support her family.this does not mean that they are not good mothers.instead i feel that a working mother spends more quality time with her child.these children are more disciplined and more independant.the only think i feel is that a working or career minded women should not neglect her family .if she keeps this in mind then she can be a fantastic mother as well as a wife. Name: Pallavi Country: India Comment: I am a working mother. My son Aryan is 6 months old. My mother is there at home to take care of him. Sometimes I feel like staying at home with my son, but I can't. I am working as a Project Leader in a software company and I can't leave my job because I want to utilise my studies and knowledge. Also I feel that working mothers incultivate a disciplined, organised and systematic life style among their children. Name: raj Country: India Comment: service woman have a busy life, she cannot care her baby instead of housewifes Name: nikita Country: Dubai Comment: i am a working mother and my mom was not. not that i did not like my mom around but i feel that because she was always at home, she had a lot of misconceptions about working women, she is highly educated woman with varied interests but i feel that everything got wasted because after sometime, when we were past twenties, we all flew the coup - if she had a job or business to keep her occupied, she would have been so much better off. moreover, although well off financially, she was always dependent on my father and hence, answerable but at the same time having a mind of her own, this would frustrate her often and that shows on the children. i feel personally that i would definitely have wanted her to have a life of her own instead of just dedicating to us which actually bore no other rewards excepting for seeing us in good positions but then children of working mothers too work in good positions - in fact they are far better ahead in their careers because they have been brought up in a professional atmosphere. i feel that upto a certain age the mother should be there with the child - say about until 5years - after that, she should have a life of her own - only when she is mentally satisfied, can she give that something extra to her child. my daughter is very self reliant, organised, well adjusted, talented, responsible and above all, she knows she is not born to just carry on the drudgeries of domestic chores and child rearing - she is born to reach out to the stars - make something of her life so that she can give her fmily what her mom has given - she is extremely rpoud to have a working mom who is stylish, sophisticated, career-oriented, modern and forward thinking - and all this from a 11 year old girl. she has great ambitions in life because that is what she is exposed to. so it matters and then it is only practical that in todays world, a woman should be financially independent - you never know what might befall her - widowhood, divorce, errant husband, non-caring family - the woes are endless. i feel working moms definitely make better moms as they can give quality life, quality education - in fact, evrything speaks of quality - ofcourse all this things are for well placed moms and those who are not well placed, unfortunately, they are in no position to decide whether going out to work for their families is good or bad as they ahve little choice - without their income, the family cannot even pull through. Name: nikita Country: Dubai Comment: i am a working mother and my mom was not. not that i did not like my mom around but i feel that because she was always at home, she had a lot of misconceptions about working women, she is highly educated woman with varied interests but i feel that everything got wasted because after sometime, when we were past twenties, we all flew the coup - if she had a job or business to keep her occupied, she would have been so much better off. moreover, although well off financially, she was always dependent on my father and hence, answerable but at the same time having a mind of her own, this would frustrate her often and that shows on the children. i feel personally that i would definitely have wanted her to have a life of her own instead of just dedicating to us which actually bore no other rewards excepting for seeing us in good positions but then children of working mothers too work in good positions - in fact they are far better ahead in their careers because they have been brought up in a professional atmosphere. i feel that upto a certain age the mother should be there with the child - say about until 5years - after that, she should have a life of her own - only when she is mentally satisfied, can she give that something extra to her child. my daughter is very self reliant, organised, well adjusted, talented, responsible and above all, she knows she is not born to just carry on the drudgeries of domestic chores and child rearing - she is born to reach out to the stars - make something of her life so that she can give her fmily what her mom has given - she is extremely rpoud to have a working mom who is stylish, sophisticated, career-oriented, modern and forward thinking - and all this from a 11 year old girl. she has great ambitions in life because that is what she is exposed to. so it matters and then it is only practical that in todays world, a woman should be financially independent - you never know what might befall her - widowhood, divorce, errant husband, non-caring family - the woes are endless. i feel working moms definitely make better moms as they can give quality life, quality education - in fact, evrything speaks of quality - ofcourse all this things are for well placed moms and those who are not well placed, unfortunately, they are in no position to decide whether going out to work for their families is good or bad as they ahve little choice - without their income, the family cannot even pull through. Name: Urmila Country: USA Comment: I have a freelance job which allows me to work from home. In this way I can spend lots of time with little Rahul and have job satisfaction too. Name: kaushali Country: India Comment: No I would spend all the time with my child. 
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