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 Views on Poll
Name: Lucy Patnaik Country: india Comment: In my views girls are better than the boys. I can clearly remember when I was at operation theater at the time of my second issues delivery the doctor asked me whether to do family planning operation ? I agreed. My first issue was a girl. I didn't know even what was the second. I was having some problem so Ceasearian was done. The doctor asked me if the second child will be again a daughter what will I do. Should I take another chance. I said no chance. Because I myself am a daughter. And the girls really care more for their than the boys as I belive. So girls should be taken more care how to handle the boys and should be given extra benefit. My second issue was a girl baby also. You can't belive how happy I was when my sense came back. I love my both the daughter very much. My husband also loves them very much. Name: Lucy Patnaik Country: india Comment: In my views girls are better than the boys. I can clearly remember when I was at operation theater at the time of my second issues delivery the doctor asked me whether to do family planning operation ? I agreed. My first issue was a girl. I didn't know even what was the second. I was having some problem so Ceasearian was done. The doctor asked me if the second child will be again a daughter what will I do. Should I take another chance. I said no chance. Because I myself am a daughter. And the girls really care more for their than the boys as I belive. So girls should be taken more care how to handle the boys and should be given extra benefit. My second issue was a girl baby also. You can't belive how happy I was when my sense came back. I love my both the daughter very much. My husband also loves them very much. Name: Harpreet Country: Singapore Comment: Hi All, I have 16 month twins,a girl and a boy. Watching them grow up together with different characteristics,interests and talents, I think it would be unfair if I had to bring them up in exactly the same way. Bringing up my daughter differently from my son definately doesn't mean not providing equal opportunities,love,concern and guidance. They are both individuals in their own right. They have to be brought up according to their personalities. I feel even two girls or two boys in a family cannot be taken care of in the same way.All children are unique and should be given equal support and motivation for what they are and what their talents are. Name: ekta agarwal Country: india Comment: I am a mother of a 6months old daughter and am very proud of it. Name: Kamalini Country: USA Comment: I think that it is best to let the child's (boy or girl)inclinations and talents dictate how he/she is raised. I watch my four-year-old daughter and take the cues of what she needs from her. I would do the same for my son. My husband and I have attempted to raise our daughter in as gender-bias free a manner as possible. We have thrusted neither dolls nor cars at her to play with. Rather, we have allowed her (as much as possible) to make her own choices. I believe this is the only way to raise a well-balanced and confident child. Name: Kamalini Country: USA Comment: I think that it is best to let the child's (boy or girl)inclinations and talents dictate how he/she is raised. I watch my four-year-old daughter and take the cues of what she needs from her. I would do the same for my son. My husband and I have attempted to raise our daughter in as gender-bias free a manner as possible. We have thrusted neither dolls nor cars at her to play with. Rather, we have allowed her (as much as possible) to make her own choices. I believe this is the only way to raise a well-balanced and confident child. Name: amy Country: england Comment: I think a girl should be treated differently to a boy because there is more dangers a girl can face and a boy is more able to look after himself at a younger age Name: Arundhathi Country: india Comment: My instant reaction to the poll was that I would not treat a daughter differently from a son.This was because, I myself was subjected to this gender bias when I was 7yrs old when my baby brother was born. ( I was the third daughter). When I was expecting my 2nd baby I desperately wanted it to be a baby boy so that I can show my mother how not to differentiate between the genders. My 2nd baby is also a daughter and is now 4 yrs old. As she is growing up I realize that my elder daughter and the younger one are poles apart in every respect. What works with elder one doesn't with my second. I have realized that each child is unique, be it male or female, and depending on their nature, calls for different kind of treatment. To this extent parents should be good judges of character. Name: Vidya Country: netherlands Comment: the fact that i am a woman is irrelevant for 99% of how i think and what i do. so from my point of view, why bother bringing up my daughter "differently" Name: Vedu Gheewala Country: India Comment: I have a 7 year old daughter and a 3 year old son. I would never differentiate between the two. I will always encourage my daughter to do all the things a guy can do. Who knows, one day she may excell more than my son. Name: Purnima Country: india Comment: Of course I would raise a son differently from my daughter. Each gender has different potentials which shud be explored and encouraged by parents. And if you are insensitive to the basic difference in the psychology of genders then this work cannot be accomplished. Name: RZTucker Country: usa Comment: Why would you raise one child different from the other. You should treat every child as an individual instead of a sex (male or female) if one does something wrong does that make them a bad person? It should make no difference whether not of there sex. Everyone knows from growing up in this world that a child will do what they want no matter the circumstance if they want it bad enough you should think before you react and then you should trust your child to make the right decisions for themselves then judge them on that instead of their sex. RZT Name: Sadath Country: india Comment: Girls are different from boys in many respects- mentally, psychologically, emotionally, biologiclly, etc. So they have to be brought up differently. But this does not mean not providing equal opertunity/facilities etc to both. Education, games & entertainment, information etc should be given to both. Name: Deven Country: india Comment: They both ultimatly are part of me and my family so why the difference? Name: chanda panday Country: Singapore Comment: i think daughters are sensitive than sons, they shud be treated special and need to be protected from the evils of the world.especially backwards thinking of the society. Name: viswanath Country: India Comment: To raise a girl or a boy identically is to be insensitive to the fundamental differences in the psyche and physicality of the sexes. If you love your kid independent of social opinions or pressures, you will never wrongly discriminate. But to say that you will bring up a boy or a girl the same just because you do not wish to be branded as a discriminator is to do the child injustice. Upbringing should serve to maximise the kids potential for joy... and a boy and girl have slightly different ways of getting there. Name: Mini Vinod Country: india Comment: As far as bringing up children is concerned, I would definitely show a difference in bringing up a son and duaghter. I agree that the amount of love to be given to them should be equal in all aspects. But a girl child needs more care and the mental presence of her mother to make her place in the present society. In the day-to-day life, it is very apparent that a girl should have extra energy and capabilities to have her stand in her personal life as well as professional life which she can achieve by the knowledge that is bestowed to her by her parents and elders. Girls are prone to lot of risks and dangers from a very early age and she should be taught to understand them and keep herself away as far as possible. - minip@wipro.co.in Name: Ami H Parikh Country: USA Comment: We both like to grow our children in same way. It doesn't matter to us weather it is a girl or a boy. I often heard people to say that a son will be a son only, but if you have a daughter, she can be your daughter as well as your son .But I never agree with that, It is your way of looking. We all should just think to have a healthy baby, we should not mind at all about baby's sex. Now a days there are no differences between a girl and a boy. hiteshparikh@hotmail.com Name: RAJESH.R Country: india Comment: I WOULD VERY MUCH LIKE TO BRING UP MY CHILD, BEING A GAL OR A BOY IN THE SAME WAY. BUT I WOULD SAY FEMALE CHILDREN ARE MORE ADORABLE, SO I WOULD DEFINITELY SHOWER MORE AFFECTION ON MY GIRL THAN MY BOY. (I AM EXPECTING MY FIRST BABY ON 4-4-2000). HOPEFULLY I GET A BABY-GAL. BUT OTHERWISE SPEAKING, BOTH THE GENDERS CAN EQUALLY COMPETE IN ALMOST ALL THE FIELDS, SO THERE SHOULD BE NO DIFFERENCE IN BRINGING THEM UP. EQUAL OPPORTUNITIES HAVE TO BE GIVEN TO BOTH AND WE SHOULD LEAVE THEM THE CHOICE OF DECIDING THEIR FUTURE. WELL WISH ME GOOD-LUCK FOR GETTING A FEMALE CHILD. RAJBULL@USA.NET Name: RAJESH.R Country: india Comment: I WOULD VERY MUCH LIKE TO BRING UP MY CHILD, BEING A GAL OR A BOY. BUT I WOULD SAY FEMALE CHILDREN ARE MORE ADORABLE, SO I WOULD DEFINITELY SHOWER MORE AFFECTION ON MY GIRL THAN MY BOY. (I AM EXPECTING MY FIRST BABY ON 4-4-2000). HOPEFULLY I GET A BABY-GAL. BUT OTHERWISE SPEAKING BOTH THE GENDERS CAN EQUALLY COMPETE IN ALMOST ALL THE FIELDS, SO THERE SHOULD BE NO DIFFERENCE IN BRINGING THEM UP. EQUAL OPPORTUNITIES HAVE TO BE GIVEN TO BOTH AN WE SHOULD LEAVE THEM THE CHOICE OF DECIDING THEIR FUTURE. WELL WISH ME GOOD-LUCK FOR GETTING A FEMALE CHILD. RAJBULL@USA.NET Name: Suneela Country: usa Comment: I am a mother of a 3 year old daughter, would like to raise her in the same way as I would raise a son . Both girls and boys have to become responsible individuals in the society and we the parents have to shoulder this task. I would teach them that they are unique as individuals and have a responsibility towards the society in which we live. They should grow to become good samaritans with compassion and respect for the fellow human beings.We sow the good seeds and to see the results later. I will teach my children to be independant in thought and action,with self respect and self confidence so as to face the truths of the world with their judgement. I will do my best and leave the rest to God. Name: Alpana Country: India Comment: But for the gender constraints we would always be raising the children without any bias. Name: Jay Country: india Comment: i think boys are better than girls Name: shelly Country: india Comment: I think people who treat their daughter different are very stupid, and most of aall very narrow minded, they need to get a life......... Name: Jeannette Country: usa Comment: I would teach the children regardless of their sex the same values and give them the same opportunities. I would love them for who they are. However, a female needs to be protected more than a male as satistics have shown that preteen or teen girls are more likely to be raped, kidnapped or assulted. Another thing is that when teens become sexually active and pregnancy occurs the girl is the one who has to deal with the situation where a male can just dissappear. We would hope that he would be there to deal with the situation but often that is not the case. So yes, I would raise her somewhat differently. She needs to know how to respect herself and how to protect herself. I am not saying that I would not teach a son the same things but unfortunately girls are more vulnerable. Name: sarika Country: India Comment: GIRLS ARE EQUAL TO BOYS IN EVERY FIELD AND IN EVERY ASPECT SO GIRLS SHOULD BE TREATED THE SAME AS BOYS Name: sarika Country: India Comment: GIRLS ARE EQUAL TO BOYS IN EVERY FIELD AND IN EVERY ASPECT SO GIRLS SHOULD BE TREATED THE SAME AS BOYS Name: Hema S. Subramanyam Country: india Comment: If this question has been asked from the viewpoint of female infanticide, then the answer is an absolute NO. But being a mother of a boy aged 2 and a girl of 4 months, my husband Sanjay and I feel that since a girl and boy have different interests, the approach would be different. We would definitely give the both of them the best education that we possibly can, be it in sports or arts. Name: Aarti Country: Dubai Comment: I think we should stop asking such silly questions. Time has really changed. There must be places in India ( i dont know about other countires) where today also girl child is not welcome. I wont say that a girl is better than a boy or vice versa. But neither can replace eachother. Each one has a separate role to play. We are all God's children. Who are we to differentiate. I personally like to have only one child (so that i can give all my love to that child). It would make no difference if the child is a boy or a girl. Name: Raji Country: usa Comment: I think the question posed here, though interesting, doesn't get at the core of the issue which is gender equality. I think it is easy to say we want to raise sons and daughters the same, but quite another to actually do so. Especially since in our community, whether we like to admit it or not,there is so much value placed on bearing sons. Until this attitude changes, I believe parents need to place extra emphasis on how they raise their girls.I am talking about giving them the freedom and confidence which we begin restraining once girls hit adolescence. I think all of us know what I'm talking about. Of course, we all want to raise our children with the same set of solid morals and values which will serve them for a lifetime. But, I believe the real question is how can we ensure that our girls are raised with confidence in themselves and high self-esteem (it is documented that girls begin to lose these two things when they enter ages 9/10 through adolescence) so that they can come into adulthood with the tools they will need to survive and excel. In a world where women unfortunately still don't earn equal pay for equal work and do not always have the same choices that men do (especially in countries like India), can we afford to say we don't want to take a "different" approaches with girl children and give them special encouragement (to try for the soccer team, or go on that school trip to Boston, or run for student government, etc.) while they are in those important age groups which may make the biggest difference in their development as young adults. I think we must. Only by understanding the unique and special needs of girls, especially those in pre-adolescence and adolescence, can they grow to be adults who have the confidence to demand respect and equal treatment from others. Name: neelu Country: india Comment: no i would raise them in same ways i have a 8 yr old daughter .i think she understands me andmy moods better than anyoneelse even better than my husband. she is sympathatic and patient to PMS and moodswings...so i guess girls are more humane and understanding. Name: Jenny Pihlblad Country: usa Comment: My name is Jenny Pihlblad. That's why I put my name on the scren. Name: Vivek Joshi Country: India Comment: Hi all, I have a four month old som named Aryan. I individually feel that I would have been softer and more protective towards my child if it were a daughter. At the same time, I know that my wife Devika shall prove to be over-protective and indulgent mother for Aryan. So, irrespective of gender of my child, he would get the same amount of love and care etc. from his parents. Bye Vivek Joshi vivjos@usa.net Name: Vivek Joshi Country: India Comment: Hi all, I have a four month old som named Aryan. I individually feel that I would have been softer and more protective towards my child if it were a daughter. At the same time, I know that my wife Devika shall prove to be over-protective and indulgent mother for Aryan. So, irrespective of gender of my child, he would get the same amount of love and care etc. from his parents. Bye Vivek Joshi vivjos@usa.net Name: pallavi Country: dubai Comment: I have 2 daughters and though I would have preferred my 2nd to be a boy, no regrets.I am very happy and content with my little darlings. If I had a boy , essentially I would try to instill the same high values and morals in him as in my girls. However I think I would be a little more protective of my daughter as compared to a son.Afterall, all said and done, gender differences do exist. Name: deepak Country: India Comment: Here boys are raised to lead the family and girls are raised to run the house.. Name: anamika Country: usa Comment: I find girls more sensitive to needs of parents than sons. Ofcourse in india, parents(many of them)are more interested in sons b'cos they are going to get RETURNS in terms of support(financial and other) which in most situations they won't get from a daughter, especially after she is married. Now in my case, I am highly educated, earning same as my husband and willing to help my parents in every way. Even my husband is a really nice person. By my parents hesitate to accept any help from me b'cos I am married where as my in-laws are for ever asking something from their son(maybe they think its their birth right). I find this mentality of my parents too disgusting. But its hard to change as they strongly believe in it. So though they have raised me equal to a son still they do not consider me an equal. Name: shital Country: india Comment: may it be a daughter or a son aren't both of them our own flesh?arent they your own?does the gender raelly matter? Name: TONYA Country: usa Comment: I WOULD NOT RAISE MY SON ANY DIFFERENTLY THAN I DO MY DAUGHTER. MY DAUGHTER IS TAUGHT RESPECT, MANNERS, SELF-RESPECT, AND LOVE FOR OTHERS. WHY WOULD I WANT TO TEACH MY SON ANY DIFFERENT MORALS THAN THOSE I HAVE TAUGHT MY LITTLE GIRL? WHATS MOR BEAUTIFUL THAN A SENSITIVE, YOUNG, STRONG, SELF ASSURED MAN? THERE ISNT! Name: rashmi jain Country: India Comment: For me my daughter would be special that is why i would raise her differently from my son. i would teach her that a woman is one who makes the man and hence she is the most important person. a woman is not someone without identity. she is the source of power and i will make sure my daughter realises this. hence i will raise her differently. Name: AARTHI NAIR Country: india Comment: I I would have loved to have a son as my first child but i am more happy after having a girl.Its a real plasure seeing her grow . And iam enjoying every moment of her growing up.Iwill never treat her differently even if i have a son .Intoday's world a girl is entitled to have get the same treatment a boy gets in this world . And i belonging to the same species will never allow anyone to do this to my sweet little thing . I hope all mothers would do the same thing . Name: Jhanvi Desai Country: India Comment: I raise both my son and my daughter the same way. But the problem is often not the parents. It is the other relatives in the family. They always treat my son with special respect and always give in to his demands. Whereas as with my daughter they keep saying that you are a guest in this house and will be here for a limited number of days (meaning she will eventually get married and leave the house). I find this just so digusting!!! I am always trying to protect my daughter. In this day and age, girls are capable of earning and making a living as well as boys.
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