Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi,
I am 31 Years old and My wife is 28 years old. We have 2 daughters of 3yrs and 1 months old. Currently we are in US, when we came to know our 2nd baby gender my wife got very much disappointed because she want a baby boy. So she was suggestig to have 3 baby, but I convinced her saying in india educated people like us wont prepare to have 3 baby.. and if we have.. the society will look us like different.. and we both are happy having 2 daughter. She some what accepted, but all my friends circle have a boy baby so she is siliently feeling bad that she is not having a boy.

Our both baby born normal delivery without any issues, so even our parents suggesting to go for 3rd. In this situation I am confused. Shall I go for a third, If I have a 3rd baby will Indian people looks me as alien or un-educated person? I see some people are with only one baby and if I go for 3 what they will think?

Financially I can manage with 3 kids, but still what is holding me to go for this decision? Please help me to get out of this stress with your suggestions.

FYI, We are ready accept if the 3rd baby is girl.

Anita replied. Hi Nirmal I think you should go ahead and have a third child and that to a girl child and set an example for the society as what have a different mind set for the girl child. Gitika replied. Hi please be happy and make sure you both are happy don't think what others will think about you as they are not concern and your family is important here so act accordingly. Garima replied. hi dear please feel free to talk to your wife on this matter as she and you are the once who are going to have the baby and you should be able to cope with the matter smartly. Geeta replied. Hi dear please do not take fast decision as its a big matter and you should consult with your family members on this and it will be a huge thing to happen in your family. Sarita replied. Hello is there any need of anyones approval for your family, and if you are so confused then just have a quick discussion with your wife immediately. Deepali replied. If you can afford then why are you so worried just plan it have a third child with joy and happiness you should think of your family and be happy. Priyanka replied. Hi there please speak to your wife on this as she is the one who is going through such pain so its you both who have to decide about the future, please be happy and may god bless you. Pritam replied. Just a suggestion dear friend please think that you are very lucky and you should respect the god for giving this opportunity to have a third child, do not ignore of not having the third child. Preeti replied. Dear Nirmal what I can think is that you are living for the people around you and not for your family, as if you are saying that if people will appose you for the third child you will not have. Rupali replied. Hi dear first of all many congratulations for being a father again and you should be happy that you are getting this opportunity for the third time as there are many couples who are unable to have even one child. Richa replied. Having a baby is not a stress its you who is making thing happy moment a stressful one, please stop overreacting and just enjoy the moment with your wife and family. All the best. Richa replied. Just calm yourself and be happy that you are being a father for the third time and also a father of a girl child which is very lucky and you should not be upset about it. Reema replied. Looking to your post I think you are not from US you are staying here in india only, because if you are staying in US then why are you bother about what people will think here. Why? Ram replied. Just enjoy the y of being a proud father for the third time and don't think so much, just relax and be with your wife all the time. All the best dear. Radhika replied. Being so much educated and you are asking such stupid question and also should not disclose such things in open platform as its not good and can create a problem for you. Deepali replied. You are saying you stay in US then why are you concern what will people think if you can afford third child then you should go forward with it, All the best. Aruna replied. Please speak to your wife on this as she is having the baby in her body, why are you concerned about what others will think as they don't matter when family is there, only you and your wife should decide whether you should go for third child. Aparna replied. Giving a suggestion please speak to your mom on this issue as she can guide you properly and she will help you as well your wife in the issue, also involve your wifes parents as well. Anjali replied. Hi Nirmal according to me its only you who has to decide whether to have the third child or not sit with your wife and discus the issue and she will tell the right feelings of her. Anamika replied. Hi there I can understand your feeling and being happy also that you already have two daughters and you are ready for the third one, hats off to you for being such educated as here people have different set of mind for girl child.