Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi,
I am 31 Years old and My wife is 28 years old. We have 2 daughters of 3yrs and 1 months old. Currently we are in US, when we came to know our 2nd baby gender my wife got very much disappointed because she want a baby boy. So she was suggestig to have 3 baby, but I convinced her saying in india educated people like us wont prepare to have 3 baby.. and if we have.. the society will look us like different.. and we both are happy having 2 daughter. She some what accepted, but all my friends circle have a boy baby so she is siliently feeling bad that she is not having a boy.

Our both baby born normal delivery without any issues, so even our parents suggesting to go for 3rd. In this situation I am confused. Shall I go for a third, If I have a 3rd baby will Indian people looks me as alien or un-educated person? I see some people are with only one baby and if I go for 3 what they will think?

Financially I can manage with 3 kids, but still what is holding me to go for this decision? Please help me to get out of this stress with your suggestions.

FYI, We are ready accept if the 3rd baby is girl.

Tina replied. I think you should plan a third child and make your wife feel happy as she always wanted a boy and this time i am sure you will get your joy of happiness and you will be blessed with a baby boy. Tanya replied. Hi it totally depends on your needs and how can you afford, if you are able to afford the third child then why to worry and just go for it and plan one but yes if you are not sure then please do not plan. Jigar replied. Hi dear please stop worrying so much and decide what you and your family wants because if you have money then you are powerful in India and people will respect you even if you have ten kids so please plan it. Jian replied. Hi my friend it is very common of having three kids and you should not worry at all and i think you should plan for the third child and will pray that this time you are blessed with a baby boy. Jeetu replied. Hi Nirmal please make a point that you are not hurting your wife, as looking to your behavior it feels that you are not bother for your wife but thinking what other people will say and that really not matters trust me. Jain replied. Hi Nirmal please think that you are not looking what people are thinking and just think what your wife wants and if she wants it then just go and plan for it as she is more important than anything in life for you. Jhavni replied. Hi there please make sure you are not hurting your wife in this as she wants a baby boy and if you are not ready for the third baby because of the society she might feel that you love the society more then her. Jaimin replied. Hi my friend if you really want a baby boy then why dont you adopt one as it is you are financially strong so it will be easy for you to adopt a baby boy, please think over it and plan one. Falak replied. Hi please speak to your wife and explain the fact that it is not necessary that if you guys plan a baby again so will be having a baby boy there might be chances of a girl again so what will you do and please think over it. Geetanjali replied. Hi dear please do not have any doubts for this if you and your wife are ready to have another kid then plan it, so please be rest assured that no one will tell you or feel bad about it. Geeta replied. Hi Nirmal is completely fine to have three children if you can afford then why to worry as here the richest people have more than three children and people dont look them differently its all in your mind. Garima replied. What is the surety that if the third you will be blessed with a baby boy if again you are blessed with a girl? So please do consider all the facts and then plan accordingly and be sure what you want and think so much. Girish replied. My friend it is not a big issue and no one will look you like an alien as it is very common india of having three or even more than three children so please relax and take the decision as its upto you what you want. Geetu replied. Hi dear please do not have doubt before having the baby as, if you have any clear it know only with your wife because the baby is born you should not feel that you have made a mistake and you should repent on it. Gautam replied. Hi there why are you so worried about it please discuss this is matter with your family and if all are ready then you do not need to worry what the society will think as they will not matter you when your family is with you. Shubham replied. Hi Nirmal why are you asking us this question, just ask yourself whether you want this or not if you are ok with it then why are you so worried about the people around as they don't matter so much. Shivam replied. Hi bro this is very good to have a third child if can afford and also you are lucky to have two daughters and third also to have if you are going ahead really lucky man. Shivani replied. Hi there is there any other option left for which month pregnant your wife is and if can be avoided to have the baby the sit and discuss with the same with your wife,hope to see you both happy. Seema replied. Hi one think have to suggest you that if you are happy to have a girl child in your life and can afford the child then why to think twice, please feel free to discus more on it. Shika replied. Hi Nirmal what should be done in this situation is completely your family decision and not others decision as they are not the ones who will decide for you, hope you are understanding the situation.