Teach your child to be more sensitive to the feelings of others. He will then grow up with a better attitude towards life.
Although ideally no one would want their child to be so sensitive that he gets easily hurt and takes things to heart, every parent would want their child to have some degree of sensitivity. And most people would agree that it is better to be overtly sensitive than to be completely heartless.
By sensitive, we mean sensitive to the feelings of others. It is easy to be sensitive with regard to one's own feelings. Even the most hardened criminal will describe himself as a sensitive person. If someone hurts his feelings, he may not think twice before putting a gun to his head and blowing him off! Why? Because he's a sensitive guy! But would you say that he was sensitive to the feelings of others?
According to parent Geeta Mishra, "I want my child to get ahead in life, and if he keeps thinking about others, how will he get very far?" This is a concern voiced by many parents. Understand that in order to succeed, people skills are also important. There are many people in this world with which others just cannot reason. Such people, in any given situation, honestly and truly believe that that are not wrong and refuse to accept evidence to the contrary. Reasoning with them is like banging your head against a brick wall. They believe that they are always in the right and others are always at fault. Trying to get them to see another person's point of view is almost impossible.
The problem is that such people often grow up to be bitter people, because their friends and relatives keep disappointing them in their eyes. So, make sure you teach your child that he cannot grow up thinking that the world owes him anything. Everyone has their own lives, and their own problems.
Natasha was extremely upset with Mona because she refused to lend Natasha something to wear. Mona instantly entered Natasha's bad books, and the fact that Mona had done so much for Natasha in the past did not hold any water. The result? Natasha started behaving cold towards Mona, and gradually they drifted apart.
As you grow old, family and friends play an increasingly important role in your life. If you have good ties with your family, they will always be by your side through thick and thin. But if you severe ties with them, in the end you are the loser.
Naturally this does mean that your child should put up with any form of abuse at all, but he should be quick to forgive and forget, and this happens if he can see a situation from the other person's point of view as well.
Teach your child that most people are not intrinsically bad human beings. They have their own hassles and problems in life, and as a result they may sometimes be curt or rude. But if they normally go out of their way to help, then such rudeness should best be ignored.
The next time your child comes and complains to you about how a friend was rude to him, play Devil's advocate. Don't be quick to condemn the friend, because then your child will never learn to see another person's point of view.
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