Many Indians fantasize about the life in the United States, and long to live the American dream, with access to money, fast cars, a better quality of life, beautiful malls and unending entertainment.
I shifted to the US of A, a year ago. I wasn't every comfortable when I first arrived, though friends and relatives insisted I would definitely adjust; it was only a matter of time before I wouldn't even want to return to India. Sure enough, I gradually adjusted to the climate, people and lifestyle. In fact, I adjusted too well! When I think about returning to India, I think of it as home, as a place where I have my family, my people, and as a place where I would want to settle eventually. Now that I am so used to the facilities at our disposal here, I worry about whether I would ever be able to re-adjust to our homeland.
shifting here, I got pregnant. Days flew by and before long I gave birth
to a beautiful baby boy. This gave rise to many other questions that I
hadn't considered earlier. Should we return to India? And if we do, would
my son be able to adjust to the harsh climate? But then again, where would
I want to raise my child? In India? Or in America? Children here are taught
to be independent at a young age, which is a good thing if that is what
you are looking for. But me, do I want my child to be independent? A quick
introspection later, I discovered that I want my child to want me, to need
me. I want my child to miss me when I am away, just as I will miss him.
No, I did not want him to move out as soon as he turns 18, so my husband
and I could have our privacy. I wanted our family to be inter-dependent,
as opposed to independent.
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