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Difficult
Children - Moody, Disobedient, Naughty
My child is moody and
disobedient
Most of a toddler's actions are aimed
at attracting your attention. Thus, she may try speaking to you, crying,
hitting you or annoying you. She is not particular whether the attention
is positive or negative as long as she can catch your eye. Once you respond
to her, she will smile or laugh at you. She will behave in an increasingly
wilful manner in an attempt to assert her independence. Do not thwart her
attempts at independence at every stage, although it may express itself
as disobedience. This can lead to her developing a negative attitude in
the future. Your baby will have frequent mood swings veering between extreme
displays of affection and anger. The good news is that your child will
become more participative in play and this is a good opportunity to teach
them to share.
How do I deal with
a naughty child
A naughty child is one who knows
the difference between right and wrong, but lacks the maturity to exert
self-control and do the right thing. They are usually apologetic and contrite
when caught. However, often you will find that they are doing the exact
same thing you had scolded them for doing just an hour ago. You have to
be very patient with naughty children. Initially, you should try the sympathetic
approach, speaking to them frequently. If this fails, punishment becomes
necessary. Corporal punishment is not an option. Restricting or withdrawing
privileges is much more effective.
My child does not seem
to listen to me
A disobedient child is one who deliberately
flouts authority. Children like this really try your patience. A disobedient
child is rarely contrite or apologetic. His defiance leads to confrontations.
Remember that physical punishment is likely to lead to aggression and truculence
on his part. A programme that is a combination of reasoning and positive
reinforcement is recommended. Explain to the child that her activities
are anti-social or dangerous and suggest how she should behave.
Is my child being particularly
difficult
This is the time you will probably
realize why this stage has been referred to as "the terrible twos." Nothing
seems to be easy any more. You and your child just do not seem to understand
each other. Your child is trying to spread her wings a little bit for the
first time. She will constantly waver between asserting her independence
and seeking your approval. She will become frustrated trying to do things
for herself too soon. She will not allow you to help, although she may
need your assistance. She will probably bite off more than she can chew
in her quest to take charge of her life. This is an exasperating experience
for you as you walk the fine line between encouraging her to be self-reliant
and laying down the law.
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