Sibling Rivalry

Sibling Rivalry

Nip sibling rivalry in the bud. Quick tips on preparing your firstborn for the arrival of a sibling.

So you've got one child, and the second (or third!) is on its way. Congratulations!

It is but natural that your new offspring will be showered with attention. This will make your elder child insecure, and this insecurity will manifest itself in the form of jealousy towards your newborn. But with a little bit of tact and common sense, you can save yourself, your newborn and your first born from a lot of heartache.

Build the excitement

Your child should be informed about the pregnancy as early as possible. Let your child feel your stomach and know that her new brother or sister is in there. You could even take your child for an ultrasound, where she can see the baby inside. Show her books and pictures so she knows what to expect.

Gift

Let your child know that God is sending a present especially for her, and that she will have to take special care of it.

Decisions

Involve your child in some decisions relating to your newborn. When shopping for diapers, let her pick out the packets. This will add to her excitement.

Attention

When the newborn has arrived, be even more attentive to your firstborn, as your newborn will be getting all the attention from other relatives and friends. Unless your newborn is unwell, spend as much time as possible with your firstborn when she is around.

Play

Though your heart might skip a beat if your firstborn treats your newborn roughly, don't interfere too much, unless you absolutely must.

Responsibility

Let your child feel important by giving her some responsibility. For example, if are stepping out of the room you could tell your child to watch over the little one and make sure everything is all right.

Importance

When playing with your baby, keep pointing at your elder child and reminding the baby that this is his elder sister. Keep a picture of your firstborn right next to your baby's crib that says 'Big Sister'. Better still, let your firstborn frame her own picture, write 'Big Sister' or 'didi' on it, and place it next to your baby's crib.

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